A realistic look at marital strife and realistic tips to improve one's relationship before too late. I appreciate the sentiment that what is considered a good marriage can be waylaid by emotional disconnection. Worthwhile read.

As an adult in a marriage that was off to a rocky start, this book was beyond helpful. Obviously it’s not a “how to” book, but it does help to put things in perspective.

The book was written by therapists, which showed in the writing as they presented cases.  I felt that the book was relevant to marriages as we are not taught what to expect from a marriage and there are many changes that happen.  First stage in a marriage is the we are married and now living together and learning to adjust to two people with perhaps different ideas of helping each other, different ideas of decorating,and different ideas of clutter.  The second stage is adjusting to being parents and then the third stage the couple finds themselves living again without children in the mix.  All of these stages require adjustments.  I find that this book would be helpful to all married couples those in couple therapy and those who want to make their marriage stronger.

This was a quick read with some good advice that anyone in a marriage, whether you are "married roommates" or have a great relationship, can apply to their life. Everyone needs a reminder sometime and this was a good one. 
Thanks NetGalley for the ARC.

Realistic self help book on marriages! It was pretty helpful and I appreciated that there was key takeaways and items to try. This book isn't "dry" like others I have read.

Helpful book with a lot of easily actionable items. I loved that each chapter ended with a few pages of "Key Takeaways" bullets that summarized the main points. There were also many examples of situations from couples. The book was divided into 3 sections about how marriage is missing an owners' manual, the decline of the relationship, and how to move forward. I felt too large a portion of the book was devoted to how couples got to this decline, because I expected and think that most people who pick up this book would be looking for the bulk of it to be advice on how to turn their relationship around. The last section about moving forward was the shortest, but there were lots of tips throughout.
I received an ARC of this book in exchange for an honest review.

This book is for couples who feel as if they are merely roommates and not romantic partners.  It breaks life down into 3 phases.  The first is the young adult years.  The second starts after marriage.  The 3rd occurs when the children move out of the house, work life slows down, etc. The first thing it stresses is communication and why it's so difficult.  Another is making decisions together.  They recommend spending time together doing things, and keeping an active sex life and how to go about doing these things.  It's well written and easy to understand.  I think this book will be very helpful in mending a couple's relationship.

My rating: 5/5

As someone who’s been in a relationship and marriage for a long time, I wanted to review this book as I wanted to see what being “married roommates” entailed. It serves as a kind of warning for married couples to not become complacent, but also serves as insight if you do find your marriage falling into this direction.

I actually really enjoyed the mini stories: they were super authentic, and the fact that we see both sides of the issue is helpful and reminds the reader that there are two sides to every issue. There are a lot of no duh advice in here, but that doesn’t mean that maybe we forget as we run through the daily lives as married couples and need a reminder of what’s really important.

This is something that I feel that newly married couples would benefit from.

This book gives the best advice on how to spice up your love life and enjoy your life as a married couple. It reads easily, and the words flow well from one to the next. I highly recommend reading this, as I will be able to apply much of what I read to my own marriage.

Written by veteran marriage and family therapists, sound advice about a problem many couples experience but don't talk about. The Wagners have put a name on the issue: married roommates. Everyone can identify with this concern, either in their personal lives or friends and family. This is a no-nonsense, practical guide to solving an unspoken issue in many marriages.

Thank you for this review copy. I found this a very good and insightful read. After being married for going on 14 years in can in fact feel like living with a roommate.

"A great marriage isn't something that simply happens, it's something that must be created." - Fawn Weaver, Author. This book is a great little guide to a realistic marriage. You & your partner don't need to be in a bad situation to gain something from this book. It takes a proactive - rather than reactive - approach to communicating with your partner. The key takeaways at the end of each chapter are helpful and could be useful in situations when one partner may not have time to read the book cover-to-cover but still wants to work through the book as a couple.

Married Roommates is a quick read with some good information to help your marriage when it becomes a bit dull.

I have always agreed that communication is a very important part of any relationship.  It is  apart of every day life’s and I have learned so much reading book.


  Mia hates it when Hal started in on their lack of time together.  He knew how busy she was, and acting like she was prioritizing everyone else over him was not fair.  She didn’t know how to make him understand that the business and kids just needed her more, while he was fine to manage himself.  It felt overly dramatic to her to say that they had no time together: it was just the reality of being busy working parents.  He needed to just get over it.

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I was lucky enough to receive an advanced copy of this book and I have to admit, I was very skeptical early on. I am in a very happy relationship so I thought a book like this would not really apply to me or my situation. That said, there are a lot of good things in here to improve already happy relationships. It's kind of a cheat sheet on some habits my wife and I have that could eventually become something negative. This book is a must read for everyone and will help even the most skeptical of readers.

If you've been married long enough, you definitely have those times when you are more roommates that spouses. This book was a really quick read with a lot of practical advice on restoring romantic love and protecting your marriage from entering the friend zone.

I think this is an excellent tool for those looking to rekindle the spark in their marriage.  Some solid advice.

Married Roommates gets right down to the business of improving relationships by focusing on simple, self examining solutions.  Its a manual for mindfulness, a masters for mending. The Wagner's understand and emphasize what is possible in all of us: To purposefully accentuate positive behavior which creates communication and genuine action.