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F*cked at 40

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A book for any woman who is 40 plus. So relatable, funny.
Thank you to the publisher and NetGalley for the book

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"Fcked at 40" is a hilarious and relatable book written by Tova Leigh. This book takes a witty and honest look at the challenges of mid-life, including suburban life, monogamy, and the physical changes that come with aging. The author's writing style is engaging and light-hearted, making the book a quick and enjoyable read. Despite its humorous tone, the book also explores deeper themes, such as the search for purpose and meaning, and the importance of self-care. Overall, "Fcked at 40" is a must-read for anyone who has reached middle age and is looking for a little bit of comfort, laughter, and inspiration.

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I haven’t hit 40 yet, but I am in my mid 30’s with three kids and Tova Leigh does not disappoint. Her recalling of the sour points of motherhood and the good is on freaking point. I enjoyed reading her book soo much!!

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Wow! What a great and honest book. Being a mom is hard enough and trying to find the time and space to get back to yourself is so difficult.
Thank you so much for writing a book that doesnt shame mothers and women to like passion and time with friends and not feel guilty about it. This was such a great reminder to other women that we are experiencing some of the similar things about marriage, sex, kids, friends and our own self-identity.

Well done.

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Being one year away from the Big 4-0 myself, this book is exactly up my alley. It was funny. It was relatable. I couldn't put it down!

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A laugh a minute, inspiring read perfect for women who are wondering 'is this really all there is?' - Tova tells is like it is and proves the answer to that question is a resounding no!

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Y'all, "F*cked at 40" let me tell you-

When I turned 30, I felt a peace about it. I felt like I accomplished enough in my life to have "earned" the age of 30. Suddenly, 40 is my next milestone, approaching sooner rather than later. My life looks completely different now than on my 30th.

I was excited to read this book because I had heard and read about some of the pitfalls of motherhood. The loosing of yourself, etc. I wanted to get a glimpse at what the future could possibly have out for me in an effort to be better prepared.

Well, I don't think that happened. I was actually rather bored. There were lots of stories about parents and childhood. I think the purpose is to show how your childhood affects your marriage and your parenting styles. That was never stated tho so I'm just assuming. I appreciated the recognition and articulation of the things women go through physically, mentally, and emotionally throughout pregnancy, childbirth and motherhood. It's nice to be seen.

The book is peppered with lots of relatable, yet not revolutionary rants. Such as:

Moms are angry because our cups are empty, because we are looking after everyone else while no one is looking after us. We wear so many hats as mothers and we forget to actually be ourselves. When Tova would meeting with her friends, most of them felt like they were going to combust at any moment, that what they wanted more than anything was to break free from their roles as mothers and wives even if for just a little bit.

There are also some items that are rather unrelatable to me. Tova makes decisions that I don't agree with. Being a mom myself has really taught me to appreciate and honestly embrace the idea of "you do you." She's writing about her experiences and as a reader, I'm just supposed to take it as another POV.

IDK, maybe self-realization books aren't for me. I'm super good as using reading to escape, but maybe a book on motherhood is a little to much like an extended work day for me.

Tova, it's not you. It's me.

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*thank you Netgally and the author for the gifted review copy*

This book is written in a conversational tone which really resonates with me. I laughed, shook my head in agreement, and even thought "what the heck are you doing?, stop that"!

If you enjoy sarcasm, can agree to disagree, or are a parent just looking for something relatable. This would be a good fit for you.

This book will not be for everyone. It has swearing, sexual conversations, other taboo subjects they may cause one to run in the opposite direction.

I don't have kids, yet I still found some parts I could relate too. If you go into this with a open mind you will be better off.

4****

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This review might come off more personal thoughts than a review.

I will state that I do not agree with everything Tova Leigh wrong in the book but there are times I found myself agreeing with her personal thoughts.

At times I found myself thinking I could write a book about mid life crisis that would be equal or better to what Tova Leigh wrote.

As a mother and woman who turned 41 this year I find some of what her wrote to be honest heart felt and true. Other times I found her to be vulgar, selfish and lack of boundaries. The author paints a picture of life that isn't true to everyone. She will make readers laugh, angry and feel all the emotion in between.



Thank you to Netgalley for advance copy of Tova Leigh F*cked at 40

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"When you find authenticity, it's hard to go back." This is Tova Leigh's book summed up in one perfect sentence. She is the worldwide sensation known for her honest look at parenting and female midlife crisis who breaks down that crisis into clear, informative chapters that show how not only is life not perfect, it doesn't have to be. It's better to be real and true to oneself than it is to try to live up to the perfect mum ideal. If anything, she shows that the 'perfect mum' is the one who is true to themselves and teaches their children it is okay to have a strong and unique voice in the world. It may just be the voice the world needs to hear.

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How I had not discovered Tova Leigh before reading this is beyond me! If you don't already follow here on Instagram I would highly recommend you do!

I read this book in three sittings and stayed up very late as I just could not put it down. Tova is brilliant - honest, hilarious and smart. I am not yet 40 but could really resonate with her words.

This would make the perfect present for a 40th birthday - or indeed any woman approaching that or past that who has children! Even though I did not identify with every part of Tova's life, it was great reading about another person who was different, but in so many ways the same as me. One for all the women out there, I guarantee you will love it.

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I was able to read F*cked at 40 by Tovah Leigh for free from Netgalley, Watkins Publishing and Tovah Leigh for providing me with an advanced ARC in exchange for an honest review.Are you almost 40? Already beyond your 40s? Wondering how your 40s are going to look like? Then you need to read this book. It is Honest, Funny and Smart. No matter what path you are in right now, you need to read this one. Tovah learns how to love and be loved, the craziness of Motherhood, the feelings that most of us feel about our bodies when we are approaching 40 (or have reached 40). As you read this please go preorder the book Now. You can thank me later.

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Such a great read! I'm buying a copy for all of my friends. Perfect 40th birthday gift.

Many thanks to the author, the publisher, and NetGalley for my ARC. All opinions are my own.

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Wasn't what I expected, however it was a decent book. I think given personal situations, it was harder for me to enjoy it. The author did a good job of reaching an underserved group of moms which is great! There are a lot of parenting books, but not a lot of "mom" books, so this is a welcome addition to any collection.

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*ARC provided by the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review*

Rating: 4/5 stars

F*cked at 40 is a memoir by Tova Leigh who reached internet fame via her online blog and viral videos. I personally didn't think I had ever heard of her, but when one of her videos is mentioned in the book I realized that I did remember seeing that one video and maybe a couple of other ones at some point on Facebook.

Tova takes you on a journey through her life growing up in Israel all the way through her current marriage and life today. She touches on learning how to love and be loved, the ups and downs and craziness of motherhood, and the feelings that I think most of us have felt about our bodies when we are approaching or have reached 40. I could definitely identify with her during some parts of the book and not at all in others, but the area I didn't identify with her were still very interesting to read.

Overall, I really enjoyed the book and how Tova told her story. She's a great storyteller and if there happens to be a follow up book as it's hinted at then I think I would definitely read it too!

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Are you a woman approaching 40? Already in your 40s? Been thru your 40s and wonder what the hell that was all about? Will one day be in your 40s and want to know what's coming? Just someone who needs to know it is absolutely, 1000%, without a doubt, no questions asked, okay AF to be exactly whatever or whoever your heart desires? Then you should make sure this phenomenon of a book gets in your hands the second it becomes available. Head to Amazon and get it preordered. Now. I mean it! Go now! You can thank me later 😎
**Thank you to @netgalley @watkinswisdom and @tova_leigh for the opportunity to read this book in advance of it's release**

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Having seen some of Tova Leigh's videos, I was curious what she would say in her autobiography. The book was a fast read. If you are a fan of Tova Leigh you might enjoy getting to know her behind the scenes.

Thanks to NetGalley and the publishers of this book for my honest review. 3 out of 5 stars!

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Like a really good night out with friends! I really enjoyed this book and felt it was the book I should have written. There is no platitudes, just sincerity and humour. I read it in one sitting and was left with what felt like a warm embrace but also felt recharged and somewhat inspired. A must read for any woman over or under 40 but also for men who need to finally understand woman over or under 40!

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I really really enjoyed this book. I've never heard of Tova Leigh before but she had me laughing out loud. Like, laughing so loud that the dude next to me at McDonald's was like, "What is so damned funny?" and I couldn't explain because he was a millennial who clearly wouldn't have gotten the joke.

Well done!

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This book is brilliant! Honest, poignant, funny and smart. Every woman over 40, no matter what path your life has taken, needa to read it. Tovah is a genius!

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