The synopsis of this book suggested that this was a book for me, for my time of life, for women like me.  How wrong could I have been?  I couldn't relate to the characters, no matter how hard I tried.  

I found the style rather vacuous and there was no connection to the characters.  The book seemed to concentrate on that which, to me seemed unimportant and unlikely - is everyone really having affairs? - yet leaving untouched some of the more important current matters, such as women's rights, #metoo and the like.  

I've more than a little in common with those experiencing issues around motherhood and fertility, but even here I found the words lacking in emotion and depth.  There was so much that could have been said and done, but perhaps an idea ran away with the author and morphed into something unintended.  I ended the book feeling that the author really didn't understand the characters and, as a result, nor did I.

Not one for me, I'm afraid.

With thanks to the author, publisher and NetGalley for the ARC.

I really wanted to like this book as its extremely well crafted, but it just wasn't gripping enough with the story line..
The characters just didn't appeal to me and they were not so different that they could have become interesting as an insight into how others live

I wanted to like this book. From the synopsis it sounded so relatable. I am nearing 40 and a female living in the world portrayed in the book....whoever on reading this book I have never felt so disconnected to a group of characters. 

I think it really doesn’t help that the whole book is voiced by Stella, even when it is talking about another one of the group. This made is dispassionate and I felt a real lack of emotion. 

The discussion should have felt relevant, with views on #metoo, women’s rights etc, however it felt like the issues were disregarded as irrelevant. 

The assumption that affairs were a mainstream part of most people’s lives I found (maybe naively) bizarre. 

I didn’t bond with any of the characters. I felt the parts about motherhood and fertility were in places thought provoking but in others again they were emotionless. 

Overall I found the book depressing.

I feel absolutely terrible rating this book with 2 ⭐⭐ but I seriously lost the will. I wanted to enjoy it so much as the premise sounds great but it just went nowhere. The book was narrated by Stella, one of the ladies in the group, who is going through a divorce and raising two young children. While I usually love multiple POV, I found this book hard to connect with because the chapters about Stella's friends were not narrated by her friends but by her and thus they felt very cold and detached. 

The only part I did enjoy was the discussions centering around the harassment cases because Fiegal touched on the idea that not all accusations are honest and true. While I understand and support the Me Too movement, we know that there are a minority of women who do lie and I think it was bold and brave of Fiegal to explore this.

Initially I was excited as I felt the book would cover the complexities of female friendship, the dynamics within the group, how you are close to different women within your group at different times etc and while all all these things were covered, I don't think they were covered well. There was a plot twist which could have been huge but it wasn't really explored much at all. I started to think about how the characters developed but I don't think they did develop that much at all. I wanted to DNF it on a number of occasions but couldn't bring myself to do it as I just have this obsession with seeing books through till the end in the hope that it will come together for me.

As I write this review I am wondering three things: 
1) Was Stella's narration cold and detached on purpose? Was that supposed to be a reflection on how these women feel about life and perhaps each other?
2) Did their characters not develop on purpose? Was the point of that to show that people don't really change?
3) Have I missed the point of this book entirely?


Thank you @netgalley for this arc.

I thought I would enjoy reading this, the story sounded interesting, the characters are similar ages to myself so I thought that there would be something in it to relate with at least one of the characters but unfortunately not.  I didn’t like any of the characters and felt the story was very sombre but maybe this was the authors intention.

I’m really sorry but this book just wasn’t for me and I hate to say it but I didn’t finish it. I found the style of writing a challenge, feeling the need to keep scrolling back to see who was who. For me it just didn’t have any flow.

Lara Feigel is not new to writing having penned a few non-fiction books but this is her debut in fiction and I wish her every success with this.

Please remember reading is subjective and like the saying goes “You may not be everybody’s cup of tea but you’re somebody’s shot of whisky” .. hopefully this book finds it’s whisky drinkers.

Thank you to Netgalley and the publishers for the ARC

The blurb sounded promising but I just couldn’t get into it and couldn’t get used to the writing style. The mix of the first and third person narration, sometimes in the same paragraph, was confusing and not much was happening. I gave up at 20%. This one wasn’t for me.

It’s always interesting to discover new authors and this debut caught my attention with a premise that sounded appealing and promising. Following the lives of five middle class women approaching their forties, this is an intelligent exploration of their friendships within the group, the dynamics of the group and how they are affected by their sexual relationships with either husbands, partners or lovers, their careers and motherhood.
If I’m totally honest I struggled with the writing style, switching between the five women, Stella, Helena, Priss, Polly and Kay but it came across as if it’s just Stella narrating which I didn’t like. To me it felt very cold and clinical, almost devoid of any emotion and I think I would apply that observation to both the writing style and the characters. What a bunch of unlikeable women they are!! I couldn’t understand why they were still trying to keep these friendships alive since they all seem to have issues with one another making ‘the group’ pointless and unsustainable. Why not move on? Having an affair with one of the group’s husbands with apparently no guilt I found quite shocking although another individual in the group conducting a relationship with a married work colleague I found less eyebrow raising. 
Sex is the overriding theme of this novel and the male contingent are equally deplorable characters with questionable moral standards. I think the language of sex and sexual relationships is so different today with younger generations viewing this whole subject from a more serious and enlightened perspective which I think these women are grappling with. There are serious questions raised about the subject of monogamy and whether any of us can really expect a lifetime of fidelity. The strand in this novel featuring Vince, a man accused of inappropriate behaviour towards a number of women is in recognition of the #metoo movement which of course is another important subject to explore and if nothing else, this is all thought provoking matter. Unfortunately for me these women who seem to be suffering all kinds of personal crises are portrayed as incredibly self indulgent, introspective and narcissistic individuals. I felt burdened by the weight of their problems which in turn induced an apathy within me towards events that were happening in their lives and overall found the whole tone of the novel gloomy, depressing and dispassionate.
Perhaps my least favourite character is Kay who abandons her young children in search of solitude and reappraisal. Quoting this line sums up her character perfectly and perhaps is a reflection on how some women feel?? 
“The only way I can return to my life is if I accept we’re all terrible people most of the time. Cruel and selfish. All of us, our husbands, our children.” I do sympathise with her to a certain extent in terms of “the endlessness of everyone depending on you to be responsible.” That probably strikes a chord with most women and certainly considering Kay’s own circumstances married to Harald I could understand her need to escape and re-evaluate. “Why would anyone choose a life with too much in it instead of a life where we can do nothing?” is yet another quote from Kay, lamenting her current situation and can be read as either terribly introspective and selfish or a statement that is brave and honest. 
On some level I could appreciate all that was being said here and I wanted to be able at some point to say I was enjoying the reading experience which is why I continued to persevere. Sometimes even if you don’t warm to or like the characters, they still have an important message to convey. Is this the case with The Group? I honestly don’t know what to think because there came a point at which I’d almost switched off, knowing that on this occasion unfortunately this book simply wasn’t to my taste. I totally agree it is an intelligent piece of writing but I don’t think it’s funny as some reviewers have said. I’ve grappled with the underlying messages and accepted that perhaps my decision to discover another new author just didn’t pay off this time. I wish the author all the best with her debut and as always my thanks to the publisher and Netgalley for giving me the opportunity to read. I’ve awarded this 2.5 stars.

Lara Fiegel’s The Group is clearly an homage to Mary McCarthy’s twentieth-century classic of the same name. While McCarthy’s novel follows the intimate lives and friendship of eight women who met as students in the ‘30s, Fiegal’s debut is about five friends, each approaching forty, who also met at university. Over the nine months her novel spans, several friendships will be stretched to the limits as betrayals are revealed, marriages are tested and new relationships formed, all of it examined and discussed by these women who sometimes wonder how much they know or even like each other each other but whose lives are irrevocably bound up together.

Stella is the driver of the story, imagining and interpreting her friends’ behaviour while exploring themes of gender roles, motherhood, marriage, friendship and desire. Humming away in the background is the #MeToo issue with Stella’s boss’ sexual activities alleged to be not quite as consensual as she had believed. There’s a great deal of analysis - both of themselves and of each other - much discussion of the behaviour of men and lots of sex, echoing McCarthy’s novel regarded as scandalous when it was published in 1963. At first, I found my patience stretched by these privileged women, so caught up in themselves, but I began to find it quite addictive. Worth reading as a witty snapshot of a particular section of society that I was glad to put behind me once I’d finished the book.

A group of friends are on the precipice of turning 40 and managing their children, examining their marriages, and working out what they want for the future. 

A quote: "It's something about this phase of life, when we confront the knowledge that there can be no more practising, that this is the only run we have at it."

Stella, recently divorced, is the main voice in the book, narrating everyone's stories, even scenes she is not there for. It's a strange, rather distancing technique. The writing is very good but you always feel one step removed.

Certain parts are rather quotable. I also liked:

"If it's likely that a marriage is going to end, and if divorce becomes harder for children the older they are, then why not end the marriage when they're in the womb."

However it's a very white, privileged group of characters (the narrator even admits it: "we'd look almost identical to most onlookers in our wealth, our privilege, our freedom of choice"), and though reading does show their differences, there's almost not enough of them to hold the reader's interest. 

I found myself accidentally skimming at times, because I just didn't feel enough for the women or their myriad plights. I'm in the exact right age group to fall for this novel, but it didn't quite happen for me.

The author can certainly write and there are some great ideas here, but it's a challenging book to get to the end of.

I rarely quote so much in a review but I'll leave myself with these two thoughts:

"We have so much power between us, if we can take ourselves seriously, with our grief and rage and love and desire."

"I'd have done so much more with my life if I hadn't felt embarrassed."

Food for thought, at least, for this 40-something.

A group of women have been friends since living together whilst at university. They are now older, with partners, children, careers and are taking stock of their lives.
 The novel observed the realities of motherhood, draws out observations about who does what in the family home, there is also look at the abuse of sexual power with the #MeToo era..
I have to say that I personally didn’t like this book, I couldn’t empathise with the characters although they were skilfully drawn on the page, I found the women irritating and was annoyed by their whinging attitudes even while admiring the authors craft. The blurb promoted a ‘very funny’ book and I must have had a sense of humour transplant because I failed to find the humour in its pages.A well written book but not one for me. 
Thank you to netgalley and the publishers for an arc in exchange for my honest review

Before I started reading The Group, I was more than a bit wary of the fact that it has about a 2.65 rating on Goodreads. And I can see why it wouldn't be to a lot of people's tastes, but personally I enjoyed it - probably all the more for having such low expectations! 

The Group takes its inspiration from the seminal novel by Mary McCarthy, which I haven't actually read, and focuses on a group of five white middle-class women in their forties, who live in London. I can absolutely see why people are a bit bored of reading stories of such privilege, especially seeing as the novel dives into problems that are very much on the axis of 'repressed femininity'. The Group actually reminded me a bit of Rachel Cusk's Outline trilogy, both because of the characters and the detached, psychologically astute way of writing, but also because you are very aware of the artificiality of the novel whilst reading it. Whereas Rachel Cusk takes as her format a series of one-sided revelatory conversations with strangers, Lara Feigel uses Stella, a single mother and commissioning editor at an independent publishing house, to ostensibly 'see' inside her friends' minds. There's Polly, a single doctor; Kay, who always wanted to write but never did, and who puts up with her cheating husband; Helena, a bisexual documentary maker who is desperate for a child; and Priss, a stay-at-home mum who feels very dissatisfied with her horizons.

I found this to be a very quick read: Lara Feigel is definitely a talented writer, with that ability to delve deep into people's neuroses. That's something I always enjoy in a book, and hints at an interior life for the characters way beyond the limitations of the book, but this book is too self-aware for me to properly connect with it, enough to feel anything more than admiration. I enjoyed it, but it's not a new favourite. 4 🌟

I wanted to like this novel - no, I wanted to love it, but in the end it was just okay.

This is the story of a group of female friends; these women have knows each other for a couple of decades and are now about to enter their forties. Men, children, careers are all important to them and at times some - or all - of these dominate their thoughts and actions, along with a kind of melancholy. At the time of the 'me too' movement, these women consider the wider implications of this and how it affects their own lives .. and so much more besides.

I struggled a bit with this one; it's not the kind of lives that I'm familiar with. I wasn't comfortable with the narrative which seemed to all come from one person but in retrospect. With no actual dialogue apart from he said or she said, I found myself wondering how Stella knew all this? That irritated me. There was a mention in the book of 'middle-class problems' and, for me, that is exactly what it's all about. Most of the women I know don't have the luxury of all the 'me time' that the characters had; I've only recently found time to meet up with girlfriends that I've kept in touch with but only seen intermittently over the years as we all were busy with our own lives. I suspect this is too highbrow for my liking; I'm pretty certain it will go on to be a bestseller and an award-winning novel, but it just doesn't do it for me. Sadly, it's a three star read.

My thanks to the publisher for my copy via NetGalley; this is - as always - my honest, original and unbiased review.

I was looking forward to reading this but when I did start I found it heavy going. The style of writing made it hard to work out who was who, and I found myself trying to remember things about the character rather than focussing on what they were doing at the time of the narrative. Maybe it’s because I was reading this during lockdown, I was trying to find something which would transport me somewhere else for a few hours, but it just didn’t work for me.

An interesting premise with well-written characters and wonderful writing. The descriptions and inner feelings are well documented and thoughtful. The narration of the characters though one main character is style I haven't read before and although it didn't bother me it felt a bit voyeuristic in some senses. An interesting look at gender imbalance and the life choices of a group of women.

I liked it but did not love it. 
I found this book a bit slow to get into and was confused which character was which between the chapters. I found that I could put the book down and wasn’t excited about reading it until I had spare time rather than must get to the end to understand what is happening in the story. That said I did get to enjoy the book more and the conclusion, it’s an easy read and characters are ok, it’s down to earth but sadly it’s lacking something and does not live up to its description. 
#NetGalley #TheGroup

I’m sure that this book will appeal to readers who enjoy novels which are slow moving and full of characters with issues and secrets and whilst the prose is well written, I’m afraid this one wasn’t for me. I struggled to enjoy the characters and I gave up before the end because I wasn’t interested enough to find out what was going to happen. A pity, because I liked the start!

I quite liked this book at the beginning, and then started to get bored after a few chapters. I managed to finish it but did not enjoy quite large chunks of it.

I liked the way the narrator knows each character's inner thoughts - it was different, clever. The fact that all five are wealthy white women in London, living comfortable lives with nice jobs, was a bit boring but it could have interested me. What made the book a lot less enjoyable was the fact that it was so long... going on about so many silly issues... throwing a few "controversies" here and there that felt forced... bringing every single "woke" (but white) topic they could think of and trying SO hard to show different perspectives while being so, so accepting and inclusive.

It just felt that Lara Feigel made a quick list of every topic she cares about - women, MeToo, motherhood, marriage, sex, Brexit, work - and tried to quickly make up some characters and situations around it - one man's been accused of sexual harrassment, but he's a family friend, but we should support all women, oh the drama, and there are pages and pages about it... Motherhood - having children, not having them, etc. Sex: cheating, forgiving or not forgiving, gay sex, sex with an older man, sex with someone else. 

I feel the topics were pretty interesting and valid but ultimately, the brand of feminism it sold was... white and wealthy. Women with cleaners, who buy lunch from Pret and cook nice meals every evening. Women whose flats are described as "tasteful" and "minimalist", or with large expensive houses somewhere posh. It's fine and I don't blame the author for not trying to write about what she doesn't know... but it just doesn't make for a very exciting book.

Lara Feigel is the author of non-fiction books, which  I have really loved, including, “The Love Charm of Bombs,” and “The Bitter Taste of Victory,” so I was excited to read her first novel.   Apparently, this is inspired by an American novel of the same name, published by Mary McCarthy in 1963.

Feigel uses a group of women who were at University together and are middle-class, around forty years of age, when we meet them, and still in contact.   The main character is Stella, whose marriage has broken down.   Like many of the other characters, she is involved in publishing.  Her friends, from the group, are Priss, Helena, Polly and Kay.

These are characters that I could feel affinity with, even if I am now a little older than this group of women.   However, the author cleverly weaves in the issues that face women of that age, and class.  The women, the youngest of whom is 38 and the oldest 40, either have young children, or are debating whether to do so before time runs out.  Having had my last child – and only daughter – at the age of forty, I could sympathise with that, ‘is it too late,’ feeling of time running out.

There is also the issue of careers, of feeling hemmed in by the demands of young children, of taking lovers, of marriages breaking down, marital affairs, secrets and desires.   Admittedly, this is probably aimed at middle aged women in London, but then I am then, the perfect target audience.   I really enjoyed it.  Not my usual type of read, but fun and gossipy and enjoyable.  I received a copy of this book from the publisher, via NetGalley, for review.

I really struggled to get into this book.
Shame because the cover and blurb made it exciting but instead I found it a slog to read . 
Sorry !

I should hate this book. The main character comes across wretchedly, the writing is high brow and the group as a whole every bit as pretentious as they know they are. But still - it’s real, it’s emotive and it works very well.