I received an ARC from Net Galley for the memoir, Finding F*ck Yes. The title and subtitle grabbed my attention right away, a memoir of orgasm and diabetes. Well, there's a combo you don't really hear about every day. Clare puts it all out there in this memoir, a collection of stories from one-night stands, terrible (and not so terrible) booty calls, embarrassing dates/hook ups and how she went on a sexual journey and strived to find acceptance of her body all while dealing with the what diabetes was doing to it. This is a quick read, and it felt like I was curled up on the couch with one of my close friends, sipping tea while she spilled all her wild stories. You know that friend who is the "crazy" one, who does things you probably wouldn't do, so you live kind of vicariously through them and soak up all their tales? That's what reading the book felt like. I found myself rooting for Clare, hoping she finds peace with herself and her body.

I enjoyed Ms. Edgeman’s writing style and often found myself laughing while reading this memoir. As the author warns in her Author’s Note, there is a lot of sex in this book. If you’re not comfortable reading about casual sex, this is probably not the book for you. Although I must admit that the author’s metaphor about sex as chocolate cake helped me be less judgmental about some aspects of her story.

I enjoyed reading about how the author became more accepting of herself, her body, and her sexuality. Reading this story helped me better accept some of my own choices, as well as realizing that I still have some work to do in learning to love and approve of myself.

I also enjoyed the poetry scattered throughout the narrative.

As a fellow Type 1 diabetic, I do wish the author had shared a little more about her diabetes. She did crack me up though with her comment about googling “what to do with your insulin pump at a sex party.” She also did a good job describing what a severe hypoglycemic event (low blood sugar) feels like. It’s nice for me to read about other diabetics having experiences similar to mine, because having a disabling chronic illness can be very isolating, and sometimes it feels like no one else understands what it’s like.

I recommend this book to anyone who enjoys reading memoirs and is curious about female sexual empowerment or would like to better understand what it is like to live with Type 1 diabetes.

I was provided an unproofed ARC through NetGalley that I volunteered to review.

I adored this. Everyone should read this. It made me feel so empowered and I know I will go back to this again anad again.

The author of the book is very relatable, even though her life story and mine are very different, how to live a full honest creative and sexual life and love who you are. Her style of writing was easy to read, sometimes humorous and i enjoyed it more than i expected

This book was fun to read for a while because of its sex positive and body positive philosophy. I was curious about this book partly from the title and also from the blurb about it. I'm in my mid-50s and so I would probably not pick up this book in a bookstore other than to browse, and that's what I did here. However as an older woman feminist, I am thrilled to see this book make its way into the world and hope that it provides teens and twenty-somethings with the model that having sex and loving yourself are normal parts of Being Human for women. And for men, now that I think of it, but what we've currently got ain't working. So here's hoping maybe this book could make a dent in that, but then again I'm not holding my breath nor worried about it, which is exactly what this book message is about!

This gave me memories of sex and the city but more relatable for what real women feel about their bodies in terms of insecurities and thoughts. Really enjoyed this book and recommend. I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.

Yes! So much yes! to this book by Clare Edgeman. I appreciate the opportunity to read a pre-release copy of Finding F*ck yes. This is a compelling, engaging, and well-written memoir that (I hope) helps the body positivity movement along. While I don't have a current course appropriate to assign this book, I'll definitely promote it as a must-read among students and friends.

There were some really good parts to this book, but overall it didn’t really I did not really connect with the author. I

This memoir was refreshingly honest. I loved Finding F*ck Yes so much and appreciate Clare's transparency in telling her story. I wish more women would be so open about their sexual journey. This book encouraged and inspired to be more accepting of who I am as a women, including but not limited to my sexuality, health, and confidence about my body.

I originally picked up this book because of the title. Through reading it, I discovered that it is a funny but insightful book about the writer's journey to loving her own body, regardless of her health issues or society's opinions on the way she looks. I think everyone could use a bit of that courage.

I never felt like this book got going. It was hard for me to digest. In terms of school-appropriate, not at all.

While this book is a memoir that on the surface focuses on a 20-something's sexual exploits, it dives much deeper. The author not only explores the physical, but also the personal of how these encounters have shaped her over the years and given her different views of how she sees connecting with others and viewing herself.

Edgeman does all of this exploring while dealing with a chronic illness, which itself can be the catalyst for a range of physical and spiritual changes. This is a book that doesn't just tell Edgeman's story--it also gives the reader a reason to look to their own lives and experiences to see how they have changed, grown, and inspiring them to learn what saying "fuck yes" means to them.

Finding F*ck Yes: A Memoir of Orgasms and Insulin by Clare Marie Edgeman is an unabashed, in your face honesty about sex and one woman’s journey to enjoy sex and dealing with the constraints of Type 1 diabetes. From her nerdy teenager years in rural Montana to her traveling across Europe before settling in New York City, Ms. Edgeman writes a vulnerable memoir in which she holds nothing back. She describes herself as a “strong, independent, curvy, diabetic slut” as she finds dates on various dating apps and hooks up through friends and acquaintances. Finding F*ck Yes can be described as Sex and the City for millennials or even, as someone else put it, Eat, Pray, Love, meets Sex and the City, as it is her journey to self-discovery, self-knowledge and becoming comfortable with every aspect of her life from her body image, her Type 1 diabetes and her sexual desires.
When I was asked to review Finding F*ck Yes, I was intrigued by the premise as I have never seen a book about sexuality and a chronic illness. And it starts that way, but at one point for several chapters, she does not mention her Type 1 diabetes. After a while, the book became formulaic as she goes from one lover to another. I liked that she is comfortable with her promiscuity and she does not try to convince other women to follow her example. I have never been or could ever be promiscuous. I am proud and comfortable, and quite satisfied with having only one partner just as she is proud and comfortable with her “sluttiness.” And I think Ms. Edgeman’s point of her memoir is for women to be comfortable with their lifestyle as they chose to live it regardless of how others may think. The descriptions of her sexual encounters do get graphic and some were very cringey that I skimmed through it. So, if you have delicate sensibilities, this book is not for you. I applaud and appreciate her honesty as she pulls no punches. This book is not for everyone and I would recommend it for those women who may be struggling with their body image and how it may affect their sexuality. With writing Finding F*ck Yes: A Memoir of Orgasms & Insulin, Ms. Edgeman puts forth “a reflection of our society, a meditation on self-worth, a treatise on how we treat women who love sex, and a challenge of how we view women who are not thin.” And to some degree, I feel Ms. Edgeman accomplishes her goal.

Finding F*ck Yes:
A Memoir of Orgasms and Insulin
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This book is certainly different. A journal of the author's experiences with losing her virginity and her subsequent exploration of sex with a long list of partners in an effort to learn more about herself and to help her feel positive about her body. As a diabetic and a large woman, she has negative feelings about her body, which she hopes to overcome. Her story explores her romantic relationships and her family relationships, but mostly focuses on what she learned from each encounter with lovers whom she gives cute nicknames. The language and stories are frank and very sexual, but underneath is a story of a woman's emotional growth over the course of an unusual year or so.

An easy to read book about a woman's sexual journey. Very enjoyable and easy to read. The book follows the authors story detailing lots of frogs, princes and everything in between!

A tell all biography that emphasizes the author's search for self meaning and fulfillment in one night stands. The author takes pride in her many sexual encounters, but it is actually quite sad that she is unable to find fulfillment in herself.

Finding Fuck Yes is an all reveal of a number of Clare's sexual encounters, ranging from the fabulously laugh out loud to important ones that touch upon revevant subjects, such as consent and sexual safety, while also normalising the female sexuality. Clare apart from being her own sexual power, is also type 1 diabetic. While using the platform of Finding F*ck Yes to normalise sex, she also uses it as an informative tool to talk about her personal and sexual impacts of her diagnosis, while also touching on her experience of a diabetic eating disorder diabullimia. This memoir is at times powerfully raw, deeply personal and utterly empowering!

I adored this book, I admire Clare's literary middle finger to societal slut shaming, the idea that society has a say / control over the bodies of women. This book shares that safe promiscuity is not just for men but rather provides a positive narrative for sexual expression, no matter who the person is or their sexual preferences.

Finding F*ck Yes also touches upon sobering subjects, such as consent and sexual trauma. This subjects are more important than ever to educate upon and through her personal experiences Clare has done that to a certain degree. Sexual trauma is not a black and white subject, it's many shades of grey and patchy, it's always important to check consent, multiple times as well as always practising safe sex. She says in one of her chapters that these things are not turn offs, don't be afraid to pull out protection, check boundaries etc.

Finding F*ck Yes challenges standards, it challenges the double standards between male and female promiscuity, one being more acceptable than the other. Within these pages sexual ideals are drawn into modernisation, a world where casual sex is accepted, within a world of polygamy and non- monogamous / monogamous relationships, with the inclusion of personal sexuality reflection.

I loved it!

I quite enjoyed the majority of this book, I'm torn between a 3 and 4 star rating because I feel that in the end things came apart a bit. This memoir is about sex and also a lot about Edgeman's theatrical training, but at the end we are quickly told that Edgeman has not had sex in 18 months, and has left acting, turn the page and the book ends.

Yes the sexy bits were fun, and mostly empowering, sex and acting were two very big parts of who Edgeman was until her early 30's. It would have been interesting for me to have the author explore the loss/departure from these two things that defined a large part of her earlier life.

I could have lived without the poetry. Fans of Rupi Kaur-like poetry may appreciate it more than I did.

I would also have appreciated this more if Edgeman explored her privilege a bit more. It is clear, to me, that the author identifies as feminist, but I would have liked for her to touch a bit more about the fact that her life is not necessarily one to which all women can aspire. Unspoken is the fact that Edgeman seems to be quite well-off financially which has allowed her to pursue two post-secondary degrees, European travel on multiple occasions and living in New York City. Edgeman also explores the fact that she seems racist in her choice of sexual partners, but does not explore her own race privilege, would a woman of colour 'get away' with having so many sexual partners? Doubtful.

Other than all the little bits that bothered me, I really did enjoy this. Edgeman has a lovely voice, and I'd love to read about what has occurred since the events of this book have passed.

A woman’s mind is a beautiful yet complex thing. Racing thoughts, often conflicting, seek the best while trying to avoid the worst. This inner-mental competition goes beyond the simplistic left-brain versus right-brain. Oh no, that would be too easy. A woman’s thoughts are like Hitler on one shoulder and Gandhi on the other. One side says, “do it like you don’t give a fuck.” The other side says, “but what would they think about me?” It’s what do ‘I want’ versus ‘what do they want,’ times ten-thousand.
At least that’s my first impression after reading two books from women, about women. The first book is Girl Logic by comedian and entrepreneur Iliza Shlesinger. The second book is Finding F*ck Yes by Clare Marie Edgeman, whose writing describes balancing everything in life, including type 1 diabetes and sexual desires and desirability. I’m pretty sure I’m one of the few dudes that have read either book and probably the only one to read both. So, here are my dudely thoughts on womanhood.

Self-doubt and imposter syndrome especially suck
In showbiz, business, and life, society shoves women into roles they didn’t apply for, simply because of their womanhood or body type. Somewhere there are unwritten rules passed through generations of women that say they should be this way and not that way. Women are obliged to follow a contract they didn’t sign. What if they don’t want to? What if they desire to do something different?
Standing up with independent thought, bucking the trends, takes (in colloquial male talk) a lot of balls. That’s what makes women like Ruth Bader Ginsburg such badasses. Mysterious, unknown society members tell these women that they shouldn’t follow their passion and instead should follow their loins into 1950’s motherhood. Whatever the fuck that means. Sadly, the world misses out on all the fantastic potential of women listening to the voices of the latter. Thank God for the Tina Feys and the Melinda Gates of the world.
Sex isn’t for babies, its for fun
Men can be like sperm lawn sprinklers, continually seeking to ejaculate for the sake of ejaculating. If they can’t spread their seed to women, they’ll yank it into tissue paper or socks. (Seriously, though, who uses a sock?) They’re always finding pleasure. But, who’s to say that women can’t have fun, too?
There’s a lot of stigma on “number of partners” for women as if that nebulous number defines the person. Again, societal pressure weighs down with boulder-like weight on the shoulders of women as they decide to pick up a guy at a bar versus a pint of Ben & Jerry’s. Why not both? Guys like ice cream, too! Just as women like sex as well. Why can’t we all just get along and bang as we want or don’t want?
Putting on makeup sucks
It takes me about 20 minutes to shower, comb my hair, and get dressed for work. I cannot imagine subtracting an additional hour from my sleep for the sole purpose of applying makeup. If I missed out on extra sleep, just to put rouge on my face, people would be calling me worse names than “crazy bitch.” I would deserve those names because I would burn down the world for trying to look pretty, act pretty, and play nice. I could not and would not want to juggle it all. Nope.

An extra inside voice
I’m always impressed by women’s abilities to multitask, multitrack, and multi-conversate. If you need an example, check out the people that take your drive-through order. A woman could take your order, talk to the customer at the window, make change, and still find the best deals for you. Nine times out of ten, it is a guy that says, “one minute please,” as you hear him ask his manager (a female) what button to hit.
That inner voice isn’t necessarily a superpower. It could be, but often it’s not. Most of the time, that voice is full of “what if” double suppurative questions. The voice wants to know what to wear when to show up and what character to play. That inner dialogue has intrinsic power of good, such as not offending people, but often delays the decision. So, fellow guys have some patience when she doesn’t know what to eat.
Most often, we’re similar
Guys and gals are mostly similar. Despite having different body parts, social standards, and the loud, competing voice inside, we are all pretty much alike. We have passions and dreams, needs, and desires. We all have failures and shortcomings, as well as successes and achievements. At the end of it all, we’re all human and we all self-doubt. We need to have compassion for ourselves, as well as our fellow humans. We’re in this together; we need each other.

This the authors memoir of her sex life whilst dealing with being a type 1 diabetic using insulin and how she empowered her sex life it did get repetitive towards the end of the book however but did show how females can be empowered regardless of what limitation their disease can put on them.