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The Path of Civility

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There are some good tidbits in this book but it seems too forced. The idea of civility and etiquette  is a noble and needed one, especially in today's climate, but there are better books on that.
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How are your manners?

Apparently George Washington, who founded an independent United States, believed that civility was one of the cornerstones for creating a fair and democratic society. He was a Freemason, which was infused with a spiritual idealism for a better society that may have Bern influenced by the ideas of Buddhism. 

The Buddhist reformer Atisha also did, apparently he wrote extensively on how to be civil in all situations where negotiating with others - also on how to present yourself and what to do and not do at table.

In other words, Atisha wrote extensively on the dos and donts of etiquette. This book provides a commentary on many of his ideas. 

However, this book tries to look beyond the need for most of us to modify our natural individual expression to become socially scrubbed and acceptable, to why it may matter. 

The Buddha apparently predicted a period in time where humanity would be at their worst. In view of what is happening in the States and elsewhere, it seems the writer sees us as having arrived at this time right now, ocial media and technology creating more problems exponentially. 

A better understanding of civility may help with all kinds of social interaction and perhaps at the end of the day, all of this is no more than sheer common sense. 

Unnecessary conflict and hostilities can be avoided, better relationships at work and at home may also be possible, where others are more present, less distracted. 

No doubt improving negotiating skills, teamwork skills, using discrete language, learning how to discuss neutral topics, are the 21st Century way of recognising that social skills really can and do make a difference. 

So this is about something recognised then and now - these are skills and they can be learnt and applied.
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This weird mash up of George Washington and the Buddha doesn't really hold up in the age of Black Lives Matter.  The tie ins seem forced and there are better books out there about ethics and self help.
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