This is a very informative book split out into nine separate sections each dealing with different issues around change and how we can actually put the steps in to bring about real and lasting change in our lives no matter what we want to achieve.

Why can’t I change? – it’s a question I ask myself on a regular basis, so when I saw the title of this book I couldn’t resist having a read of it.

This is a fascinating book. When a neuroscientist starts explaining to you in relatively layman terms how your brain works and what the different parts do and how that in turn affects other parts of the brain, you sit up and take note. As you read through the book, as well as being astounded at the cleverness of the brain, you also begin to realise that willpower alone is never going to work. I should mention though that just reading a book is never going to work either, so you need to be armed with a good notebook and a pen and be prepared to put in a lot of work yourself.

I’ve read loads of self help books and I think one of the things that stood out about this particular approach to guiding the reader is the author never tries to ‘sell’ you ideas. So often in self help books I find that the author will keep repeating themselves over and over on a given idea to the extent you begin to wonder who they’re trying to convince, you the reader or themselves. The writing in this book is kept to the point with clear and concise suggestions on how you should go about change with perhaps one real life example to explain the point.  The other thing I liked was there wasn’t the constant citation of research data that you so often see in these kinds of books which I always find distracting.

The book is split up into sections but I would definitely recommend starting with section one which is changing habits, changing emotions and changing personality. The last one perhaps sounds more extreme than it actually is. You’ll still be the same old you, just with a better understanding of what makes you tick, and how you can improve some of the traits you might think you were born with but which you are actually able to work with and change to some extent. Among some of the other chapters are changing your productivity, changing your brain health and changing relationships.

I really enjoyed this fascinating book and will most definitely be going right back to the beginning, this time with a notebook to hand and much more time to digest and put into action some of the suggestions.

It’s time to calm your Amygdala, engage your PFC and trigger that neural plasticity into change, hopefully for the better. 

Posted to Goodreads.  To be posted to my blog nearer to time of publication or on publication date.

Such a great book about our habits, based on scientific facts, but very readable and easy to understand.

It offers all the knowledge about our own behaviour, why are we stuck and practical tools for creating change. We can know our true self by learning about the inner mechanisms of our brain, because our brains were designed to create and maintain habits to save energy and ensure quick reaction times.

Very inspiring and motivational guide!

Why the F*ck Can't I Change? Insights from a neuroscientist to show that you can by Dr. Gabija Toleikyte
Publisher: Thread Books
Genre: Health, Mind & Body | Self-Help
Release Date: January 21, 2021

Why the F*ck Can't I Change? by Dr. Gabija Toleikyte is a fascinating look at change.

The book is broken into three parts, which is then broken in to related chapters. Part one is called “Changing the Self” and focuses on your habits, emotions, and personality. Part two is called “Changing the Results” and focuses on changing your productivity, your brain health, and your decision-making. Part three is called “Changing Relationships” and focuses on changing your leadership, your relationships, and your communication.
This really is a great resource and contains so much information. It is easy to read and the author guides you along the way. This really was a fascinating read. I will definitely be re-reading it with a notebook to take notes!

I would recommend this to anyone who is struggling, feels stuck, or who wants to create better habits and results!

I'm so grateful to Dr. Gabija Toleikyte, Thread Books, and NetGalley for providing me with a free copy of this ARC ebook in exchange for my honest review.