This truly was a delight. Like a slow-burn romance, or satisfying session of self-indulgence and self-care. There were times that I was worried that it might fall short, that it might leave me wishing it was more, but as I sat with it and let its content seep in I realised how much it was already doing. I accepted the book for what it was already doing and allowed myself to see that magic that it already contained.

There was a lot in this that a cisgendered person (such as myself) can take on board as good life advice; but I'm really glad that this book caters specifically to non-binary people. My main takeaway and one of the books' very well made points: is to be absolutely in awe of non-binary and trans people for already being several steps ahead of cisgendered people on the journey of self-understanding.

Ben's voice is crucial to this book. Both in terms of how they come across as a character but also to help understand intonation occasionally. Their voice just bounces off the page. So much so that I imagined I could hear them talking to me.

And - while not wishing to give them more work! - if they could read this as an audiobook it would be just *chef's kiss!" (not to mention more accessible for the visually impaired or those whose neuro-divergence is more receptive to audio than visual). However, having said that - I recognise the puzzles would present difficulties.

I would also suggest (if I may) that the book cover is changed to feature Ben. Fashion and visual representation is obviously important to Ben as a person, to their journey as a non-binary person and as a theme of the book itself. I'm not a marketing exec, but as a consumer I felt more connected to Ben as the author after I looked them up online and saw photos of them on their agency's page.

I wish Ben the very best as the next chapters of their life are written - can't wait to hear/see what they do next.
Thank you to Jessica Kingsley Publishers for an ARC via NetGalley

This book would be great for those nonbinary folks and their allies struggling to find a place. The author does a nice job of creating a safe space within the book. The prose gets a bit sugary for me in places, but others might find it welcoming. It is a warm book that is open, validating, and welcoming throughout, and if you or someone you know is struggling with being comfortable with their identity, I would definitely recommend this book.

As someone who has, within the last year or so, started that journey into my gender identity and everything that surrounds it, i loved this book. It was reassuring and helpful while refraining from simply telling you everything will be okay. It would be great for a high school book club or those Allie’s just beginning to learn about the gender identity side of the LGBTQ+ spectrum as the author helpfully provides important terms and definitions without seeming pedantic. It’s also great for those like me who have already been on their journey and want the reassurance that they’re “doing it right”. The author’s voice really shines through with a pervasive sense of style that I enjoyed.