First off I have no idea why everyone is giving this book 5 star reviews. This is the first time I have read a book by Roisin O’ Donnell and I,m glad to say this will be my first and last book of hers I read.
I really wanted to stop reading after 5% but thought no I’ll carry on. I really wish I hadn’t but once I got past 50% mark I thought just keep going. First off this is a book about a married couple and the husband Ryan is not very nice but really and truly your never really told why. You need to come to your own conclusion with the little hints that you get. Ciara the wife well what can I say about her annoying, boring, frustrating are a few words. She leaves her husband and that’s where it all starts.
Unfortunately I don’t like these kind of book,s as they frustrate me like when all Ciara does through the book is question herself and puts her ex husband above her own family. Even though everyone can see what he’s doing she still sits there making excuses for him. I think there are a lot of flaws in the book things like money where does her money come from not explained at all these things really annoy me. We don’t need half a book to explain just a little explaining would help.
The other thing that really annoys me about this book is the fact there are no spaces before we change a story ie she’s at her scan the midwife says there’s your baby. Ryan was standing in the door way with Chase, right so we have gone from being at the hospital to now being in the house with the ex and kids. It seems to happen a lot through the book and made me have to keep going back to make sure I had not missed anything. Unfortunately nothing really happens in this book till you get to 80% and then it’s rushed. I would have given up way before 80% like I said at the beginning I was ready to stop at 5%. All in all it is a very tough subject to cover but still doesn’t take away from the fact that it’s boring and feels like some of the things written were just written for the sake of making the numbers up

I was excited to read a book that tackled the complex issue of coercive partner control, homelessness, and the housing crisis. Sadly, I finished Nesting feeling emotionally detached, when I had been hoping to be completely destroyed, wrung out, and exhausted by emotional anguish. At 399 pages it took me 4 days to read, and I struggled to stay engaged. I believe this could have been reduced by a quarter, and it may then have maintained the extremely strong start for I was totally invested in the story and characters for the first 30%, feeling a sense of impending dread building as I turned each page. However, around the 40% mark the book started to fill up with wordy descriptions, and information that told me everything but showed me very little. What the children were wearing, eating, playing, watching, and their bed and bath routines. The book started to get bogged down, I disengaged, and I feel that the minutiae diluted the important message in this book.

I rate this book 3.5 stars and would like to thank NetGalley and the publishers for giving me the opportunity to read an advance copy of this in exchange for my honest review. As always reading is subjective, and these are just my opinions. I rated this book 3.5 stars.

Ciara Fay is a stressed woman, managing two young children and fending off an abusive husband who is unpredictable in his behaviour so she is constantly on tenterhooks. She has realised that she has to get out and this means leaving her family home. It sounds easy but it is not as she knows, having previously left but returning with promises by Ryan that things will be better. Roisin O’Donnell has written a stunning authentic novel about coercive relationship and homelessness affecting women and their children. She conveys the daily challenges facing Ciara as she tries to normalise her children’s lives with schooling etc as they live in one room in a hotel. Nesting captures the awful situation people find themselves in and highlights the dire housing shortage currently affecting Ireland. The character of the husband Ryan, is very well written and he really is a nasty piece of work as he is determined to come off as the wounded party. Nesting is a tense, resilient read and shows the determination of one woman to protect her daughters and her love for them. A great read.

Ciara has tried to leave her husband but goes back. He doesn’t hit her, so how can she say she needs help. But there are other kinds of abuse and as we learn her story Ciara feels able to admit that she is scared of him and his controlling ways.
This is the story of a woman’s struggle to give her children and herself a life. We live her struggles with her in this well written book, rooting for her to succeed. This is a very emotional book to read, I thoroughly recommend it.
Thank you to NetGalley and the publishers for this review copy.

This was a great read. But a very moving and emotional book the subject being of coercive control in a marriage.
Of escape, of finding the strength both physically and mentally to build a new life and to find herself with 3 young children.
Thanks to NetGalley for an advance copy.

Anyone who has ever wanted or needed to escape a relationship will grasp what a challenge it is – is it better to stay or to leave? For the sake of the children?
Roisin O’Donnell captures on every page, every paragraph, the tension, the conflict, the fear that accompanies the effects of being bullied, diminished, blamed. The anguish that eats away confidence and sense of self.
Lustrous descriptions of love for one’s children, life with no money, no home, no support, no friends, put the reader in Ciara’s shoes. My heart pounded when reading of her escape – would Ryan pitch up and prevent her? Her transformation from cowed wife to determined woman and mother is a beacon for anyone in a similar situation. Be brave and know your worth.
I loved the allegory of the crow kept chained by the husband and ultimately freed by Ciara.
An unforgettable read.

The heartbreaking story of Ciara who appears to be living the idyllic life of a young mother with two delightful preschool girls, married to Mr "Wonderful". Behind closed doors however, things are very different. Ryan, her husband, is emotionally abusive, using coercive control to cut Ciara off from everyone. Regularly woken during the night to satisfy Ryan's sexual desires, Ciara's self esteem is at all time low. Her mum and sister try and support her but with Ciara in Dublin and her family in Sheffield, Ciara is increasingly isolated. One beautiful sunny afternoon, Ciara decides she cannot take anymore, she has to leave. She doesn't have much time before Ryan returns home, so grabs what she can from the washing line, buckles the children in the car and drives away. With limited funds and nowhere to go, Ciara soon realises how desolate her situation is.

'Nesting' is a compelling, albeit tricky and on some occasions, disturbing read. Roisin O'Donnell describes the depths of despair, the feelings of hopelessness and lack of self worth with great sensitivity. The difficulty Ciara has in determinedly sticking to her guns, holding on to the belief she is doing the right thing, is so well narrated and believable. The social issues within this tale extremely well researched.

I was fully immersed in Ciara's plight, routing for her to find the courage to keep fighting.

So many thanks to NetGalley and Simon & Schuster for this advanced reader copy in return for my honest and unbiased review.

Thanks to Scribner UK and NetGalley for the digital pre publication copy of this book, in exchange for an honest review - honestly it is an excellent novel!

This book is so well written from the perspective of an emotionally abused and controlled wife, that my heart was literally thumping out of my chest in fear for her at times! I read it in twenty four hours, and when I wasn’t reading I was thinking about it. Although very upsetting from the point of view of knowing that way too many women and their children have these experiences, the story is also ‘enjoyable’ at times when Ciara and her children are doing better. It’s a rollercoaster ride, I was completely drawn in, feeling the hope, disappointment, fear, sadness, evolving friendships etc. I highly recommend this book, with a trigger warning for those women who have been through such trauma. I think it could be a useful read for anyone stuck in an abusive relationship too, hopefully it could give them courage to leave, despite how difficult that in itself is.

What a moving and memorable reading experience! This is a book that will stay with me for a considerable time. At times I was on the edge of my seat holding my breath, and I found myself speaking aloud to Ciara, hoping she would make the right choice.

Abuse manifests in various forms and is not limited to physical harm. Many of us know individuals who have endured such experiences, and sometimes we may struggle to understand why they persevere and return to such situations; however, unless one has faced similar circumstances, it is difficult to comprehend the devastating impact it can have on a person.

This is the story of Ciara, a woman striving to regain control of her life.  Leaving an abusive marriage is challenging, particularly with two young children, while pregnant, and lacking financial resources and housing.  Leaving is difficult, but maintaining distance afterward can be even more arduous.

"I cannot hear myself think. I do not know who I am anymore. I do not know if I exist. I feel like a ghost. Life energy drained. A bloodless, cowered feeling"

Thank you so much to NetGalley and the publisher for this ARC. I already know this will be one of my favourite books of the year!

Book review: Nesting by @roisinodonnellwriter .
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Book overview :
On a bright spring afternoon in Dublin, Ciara Fay makes a split-second decision that will change everything. Grabbing an armful of clothes from the washing line, Ciara straps her two young daughters into her car and drives away. Head spinning, all she knows for certain is that home is no longer safe.

This was meant to be an escape. But with dwindling savings, no job, and her family across the sea, Ciara finds herself adrift, facing a broken housing system and the voice of her own demons. As summer passes and winter closes in, she must navigate raising her children in a hotel room, searching for a new home and dealing with her husband Ryan’s relentless campaign to get her to come back. Because leaving is one thing, but staying away is another.

What will it take for Ciara to reinvent her life? Can she ever truly break away from Ryan’s control - and what will be the cost?.
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What a debut book to produce @roisinodonnellwriter
I went into this book totally blind, I was so glad I did as the twists and turns it had , had my emotions everywhere. This was a work of fiction, but it really gets you thinking about people around us or even ourselves going threw some of the issue that are written about.
The friendships that were made in this book were beautiful, it’s very true you can find friendships within the darkest of places.
I will definitely be recommending this book to everyone I know , can see this making a great tv series as it has all the elements needed.
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Thank you so much for the advance copy @simonschusteruk @roisinodonnellwriter .
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Many thanks to the author, @netgalley, and the publishers for an ARC of this book, which looks at coercive control within marriage, and the difficulties of breaking free of it.

Nesting tells the story of Ciara, Ryan, and their two pre-school daughters. From the very beginning, it's clear that Ciara is afraid of Ryan, who treats her with contempt. One day, shortly after the start of the novel, Ciara decides to leave. Ryan calls the police to prevent Ciara from taking the children to her mother's house in Sheffield, and with no other options, she finds herself in emergency accommodation. The narrative follows Ciara as she tries to rebuild her life whilst also looking for a new home for her daughters, and fighting a battle for custody.

I've never experienced coercive control, but this feels like a sympathetic and nuanced look at what it might be like to try to get out of a similar situation. Ciara is so attuned to Ryan's needs and feelings that she has lost sight of who she is and what she thinks. She also finds it nearly impossible to put in place boundaries with Ryan after she leaves – so even many months after she's left, when most of us would tell him what to do with his totally unreasonable requests, she ends up giving in to him.

Nesting also draws on Ireland's acute housing crisis. In a parallel with the real world where thousands of single-adult families are living in emergency accommodation, the novel shows what that means for people in practical terms, and how difficult it is to get a long-term tenancy again. (Ciara gets a house through someone she knows, and reflects that help from friends is the only way that people find houses in Dublin now.) Ryan is also able to use the instability of Ciara's housing situation in the custody battle.

This is the first novel I've read that deals with emotional abuse, or living in emergency accommodation, and it feels like a really important read. I would definitely recommend it.

While the novel deals with some heavy themes, there's nothing graphic in it, and I don't think it would prove too triggering for most people. However, if you're sensitive to material around coercive control, sexual assault, or the threat of intimate partner violence, this may be a book to avoid.

Brilliant debut novel that kept me gripped from first page to last. The terrible trauma of a mother and her young children being forced to sleep in emergency accommodation due to the actions of her husband I guess is not a unique story but is a tenderly told tale. Thanks to the publisher and NetGalley for the to ARC this book.

oh my poor heart. this is such a awful read for all the wrong and right reasons. but i dont actually mean that. because its so far from awful. its superb.
there are some books that you will take with you, possibly forever. this is one of those books for me.
its heartbreaking but something i think so many people especially those controlling our systems should read. it would actually be really educational. the teeny tiny often smaller still repulsive things that happens in domestic abuse are so well told here. and its so important we become aware of these both for ourselves an for those around us or those in need of help.
it such a horrific thing to go through i dont know how anyone braves it and or manages to escape and build themselves up again. add to that a system that is so disgustingly flawed and its just one big mindfield for these victims to work through.
we should be helping but instead like lots of people in need we seem to be complicit with the abuser! or at least in making things more difficult for them to leave and live free again.
more needs to be done. i dont know how. so perhaps that makes me just as bad. but i always want to be s aware as i can, to learn as much as i can.
but this book doesnt tell like a learning book dont worry. you are completely immersed in the story as a amazingly told story. but each line, each page brings you more and more involved to the point you might just, like me share more than a few tears.

I just love the way this book was written, each chapter had me gripped more and more to the story. The topics - domestic abuse and homelessness - are so important and I am glad that their discussion was done so compassionately and honestly.

This was a difficult read at times as my sister faced a lot of rough times when she left her partner but an important read all the same. I will definitely be reading more books from this author.

Thank you to netgalley for allowing me to review this book.

5 stars!
In her novel, Roisín O'Donnell brilliantly describes two major issues. First is the way one functions in an abusive relationship. How the abuser plays mind games, how he plants seeds of self-doubt, and low self-esteem in his victim's head, and how easily he influences and manipulates the other person. The victim is convinced that nothing is wrong for many years and defends the perpetrator making excuses and justifying his actions. Outside of the relationship, outside of the house the perpetrator often is seen as a decent person, they live among us undetected for decades.
It`s good to see that the author caught so many small details that often are overlooked or even ignored, such as constant stress, voices inside screaming horrible things (you're a bad mother, you're stupid, you're ugly, nobody will love you like I do, etc.). There's a scene when Ciara finally talks to someone about her situation. In a shaky, shy voice she explains that her husband was never physical, he never punched her. This made me stop and think. When people talk about their trauma, their experiences, especially women tend to say this as if their suffering is less dramatic, less important, and not as bad as those who experience physical violence. As if they're sorry that they dare to ask for help which they probably don't deserve, because things aren't that bad. Families of alcoholics do the same - my husband wasn't violent, sorry for suffering less than you, maybe I shouldn't be here? Why do we do this?
The second thing that Roisìn does well is describing the broken Irish system. When Ciara leaves her husband she immediately finds herself homeless with no help whatsoever. She ends up in a hotel in emergency accommodation on a floor of shame. The hotel put all the non-guests on one floor with strict prohibition of using the lifts and the main lobby so those who pay for the rooms won`t see those in need. Invisible people, people in hiding, people of shame.
The novel is set in 2018. Coincidentally this is the year when me and my family were forced to leave Ireland because we became semi-homeless. I was working two jobs seven days a week and had decent pay. My husband had a decent job and a decent salary, too. Yet when our landlord decided to sell the house we quickly realized that the only way for us to survive was to leave Ireland. I worked with homeless people so I knew how bad things were, oh the irony! It's 2025 now and I hear from my Irish friends that things are worse, way worse.
This heartwrenching book should be given to the authorities, to make them aware of how serious the problem is and what it does to people who aren't yet another number on a spreadsheet. Also, this book stands in opposition to the myth that the homeless are all drug users and they are in this situation on their own wish. Nobody wants to live on the streets, nobody deserves that kind of life, and don't think that this won`t happen to you.

Nesting is a masterpiece of atmosphere and subtle horror that I simply could not put down. From the very first page, O’Donnell weaves an immersive tale that pulls you into its eerie yet enchanting world. Her prose is rich, lyrical, and brimming with a quiet tension that builds beautifully throughout the narrative.

The characters feel so vivid and layered, their lives intertwining with themes of identity, loss, and belonging in ways that feel deeply personal. The story’s exploration of folklore and the supernatural is handled with such finesse that it feels both hauntingly real and fantastically otherworldly.

What truly sets Nesting apart is O’Donnell’s ability to create a sense of place so tangible that it becomes a character in its own right. The moody landscapes, the chilling yet alluring settings which linger long after you’ve turned the last page.

I’d recommend this to anyone who enjoys literary fiction with a dark, magical twist or stories that blur the lines between reality and myth. Nesting left me completely spellbound. A perfect 5/5!!

Absolutely excellent and an early candidate for my top ten of the year. The author deals with the topic of domestic abuse with sensitivity, but has also produced a novel with the pace of a thriller. I found myself urging Ciara on at all stages. This is a vital book for anyone who has ever asked 'why didn't she just leave'.

Stunning book! It's a while since I've read a book that gripped me so much. I felt it with every fibre of my being. Throughout the whole book I was either in tears, raging with anger or just really tense. It's a must read!

Nesting by Roisin O’Donnell

This book was so beautifully written and so deeply painful that I was out of breath towards the end. When I put it down I had to sit in silence for a while and just digest it all. It’s the story of a woman trying to leave a relationship that is tying her down and eating her alive. Everything she was before - bright, intelligent and full of life - has been worn away. After her husband’s treatment of her, as well as having two children in four years, Ciara has had enough. She can see his behaviour as a pattern and despite being absolutely terrified she needs to find the strength to go. Ciara has no real support, her family is Irish but live in London and despite her yearning to see her mum sister the law states that she can’t take the children out of Ireland without the written permission of their father. Her only option is the housing office, to tell them she’s homeless and hopefully get some emergency accommodation. As she meets other women in the same situation, she founds out that emergency and temporary have a very different meaning to the housing department. They offer her a temporary hotel room but with some women still there after a year it’s going to be a long slog. This small double room with one bed and no view is the first place they’ve felt even remotely safe. Even if they do have to go down a separate staircase so they don’t bump into tourists. Will Ciara have the strength to stay away and build a new life for herself?

Money is something else she needs to work on because she knows nothing will come from him, even when she knows she is pregnant for a third time. They can’t live on what the government provides. It’s only going to cover day to day subsistence and she needs to be able to put money aside, to rent somewhere that’s a new home for them all. Somewhere they can put themselves back together. I loved the solidarity between the women living in the hotel. They work together, being there for each other’s kids when they need to interview or view houses. They make each child’s birthday special, as well as decorating the whole corridor for Halloween and Christmas. Some of the hotel staff help too, particularly the porter Diego. Ciara lands a job doing what she did before the girls, teaching English as a foreign language and having to learn Irish on the side. It’s a hard way to live, having to get about on foot and working on her Irish after she’s put the girls to bed. I was saying in my head ‘please don’t go back’ over and over.

Ciara’s husband terrified me. He follows a pattern, having love bombed Ciara in a whirlwind romance he changes straight after she moves to Ireland and they’re married. His restrictions and the births of both girls have left Ciara stuck at home, friendless and a constant target. I recognised the fear she was feeling on a daily basis, quietly tip-toeing around him, desperate to avoid igniting his unpredictable rage. Trying to keep her girls shielded from the worst. I have to make an admission here so that you can understand the strength of my reaction to this novel. For four years, after I lost my husband, I was in an abusive relationship. I was incredibly vulnerable and although he didn’t touch me physically I was terrified of him. I was subjected to manipulation, rage and withdrawal of affection all because I was terrified of being left alone. I was so scared he would leave if I didn’t keep him happy and I’d be left alone with my grief. I’d needed a happy ending so badly, I sleepwalked into a nightmare. I allowed myself to be totally disrespected and abused. It wasn’t my fault. He is responsible for his own actions, but I still felt so much guilt about the failure of the relationship. So for me this book was really personal and it was so well-written that I felt Ciara’s story bodily. When I finished my chest was tight and my throat was sore. I felt absolutely wrung out.

What would happen when he was awarded visitation by the courts. She knows he won’t hurt the girls but he might use them against her. What if he doesn’t bring them back? This particular fear heightens after she goes into labour early. How can she hand over a completely defenceless baby? It’s clear to see his misogyny when he realises he’s had a son and I feared that he might keep him. I felt really uncomfortable about the nestling crows he brings home when they’re still together. They’re in their nest, barely a few days old and he wants to hand rear them. They are so bald and vulnerable and I was scared he would hurt them, but he seems to enjoy the control he has over these helpless creatures. After Ciara flees he is left with one crow, now feathered and able to leave the nest he keeps it in the house, shitting and shedding feathers everywhere. He tethers it with a long lead outside, showing it the freedom it could have but keeping it for himself. It feels unbearably cruel. It’s such a clever and chilling metaphor. This is not a comfortable read, especially if you’ve been through an ordeal like Ciara’s. It helps when the author does such an incredible job of depicting the experience and i fully believe that this author wanted to get it right for all women who’ve gone through this. I find that the more I read about other experiences of coercive control and psychological abuse the stronger I feel. Yes, I was left with tension, but I was also left with triumph. It is possible to leave men like this. It’s possible to live a full and happy life. I read on hoping with all my heart that Ciara would make it through and build a new life for her and her children. Underneath my fear I felt this sliver of hope for her, after all I did it.

Nesting by Roisin O'Donnell

Ciara and her two young daughters leave emotionally abusive husband Ryan. Unable to leave Ireland to travel to her family in England, Ciara tries to secure accommodation for herself and her daughters in Dublin, but the housing crisis makes this almost impossible and she is placed in a hotel room along with other young families.

What a BRILLIANT book - an amazing achievement by the author! I read it practically in one go and felt like I was right beside Ciara all the way - my heart was racing when she was escaping and dealing with the sinister Ryan, oh my.... Then the housing situation... deeply upsetting. The author is clearly so knowledgeable about the themes of the book but creates a fantastic story too - I loved the characters in the hotel and Ciara's sister! Very VERY highly recommended - deserves to win prizes!

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for an ARC of this book.