Six friends reunite at a funeral and try to rekindle their friendships. Have to admit struggled with the storyline, as it skipped in and out of each of the six friends. However, once you piece together each of the characters and their interaction with each other, it turned out an enjoyable read

I thought this book sounded really interesting when I requested it, and to the most part it was. The love running through the pages was beautiful. My only criticism (not that it is really that) I found things a bit confusing to start with which may be more my problem than the author.

Thank you NetGalley and Random House UK for the arc of births deaths & marriage the book follows 6 friends going though each of life’s it was a bit confusing who’s married to who and fell flat and disjointed at times of reading it and wished at the heading each chapter had the person name on to know who it was talking about took me ages to figure it out it took me ages to read it I have realised these type of books isn’t for me I tried three times with another books the same writing style nothing to do the author overall it was good but feel if you loved the characterisation and you can relate you would 100% enjoy it

Six young people meet at the funeral of a fellow student. This novel charts the highs and lows of their friendships in the years to come.

This novel didn't really grab me. I found myself not really able to care about the characters as I read through the book. I also disliked the number of gratuitous 'F' words that were littered through the text. There were some decent twists through the course of the story, which I did enjoy, but overall I don't think that it is a book that is going to remain with me.

This was a lovely easy feel good read that spans a group of friends from uni. Some unexpected moments and beautifully written.

An interesting walk through the lives of six friends from university. Each has their foibles and particular story - and felt realistic and authentic. However it was a little meandering and sometimes disjointed. Each narrative worked but it wasn’t a seamless joining. Good range of characters and situations.

Although the title makes sense it’s a bit flat. It reminds me of ‘4 weddings and a funeral’ in terms of life stages but without the comedy.

For me it fell a little flat, although i enjoyed reading it, I couldn’t get excited about the characters or really that bothered how it all turned out.

Overall 3.5* got me thinking about my time at uni and what happened to some of the people I went to uni with!!

3 ⭐

ARC review

I did enjoy this story, but I did feel myself skimming pages ago times.

The storyline is exciting but I would have loved the chapters broken down into either characters or time frames just to give me an idea where we were in the story.

I did find myself trying to work out who's POV I was in at what point again and wish we would have had more chapters from the characters from their university days.

This was a bit of a slow burn for me, and it took me a while to get into it, but I enjoyed it nonetheless. I liked the disparate lives and inherent messiness of relationships that stem from all being in the same place at the same time, rather than drawn to each other more organically as many individual friendships are.

Something of a ramble through the lives of a group of uni friends as they battle to remain in each others lives despite growing apart and despite the undercurrent of unrequited love between a number of them!
The book doesn't really have a single storyline but does not really need one as you dip in and out of each of the groups lives and piece together their personalities and relationships as a result of their interactions with each other and with their wider family and friends.
the characters are well written and varied enough to be interesting without stretching the imagination that they could ever have been friends in the first place.
A thoroughly enjoyable read.

This is great book plotting over decades the lives of six friends thrown together at university at the funeral of a mutual friend.

It charts the inherent messiness of life and all its rituals, and the fact that things can turn out right eventually, even if there are mugged lines and missteps along the way.

Old friends can pick up after a long absence because of shared connections and the knowledge of who they are.

I really don’t like giving negative reviews and I always like to find something positive to say. Therefore on a positive note, I can honestly say this is very well written and has interesting characters telling a story over a few decades, sadly it simply wasn’t for me.

This is an interwoven tale of an unlikely bunch of friends trying to get by in life. We can all relate to at least one of the characters…
Highly addictive and incredibly comforting. Exquisite storytelling written in a way that gives you all the feels from incredible sadness to raucous laughter. These are a bunch of friends I won’t forget in a hurry!

Excellent book covering several decades in the lives of 6 people who meet at university. Their paths cross briefly as part of the university social scene but close bonds are forged when they all attend the funeral of a fellow student. The story covers the next few decades charting their respective loves, losses and intertwined lives with births, marriages and the passing of relatives. An emotional and moving read which I couldn't put down.

What does the title ‘Births Deaths and Marriages’ remind you of? Yes, it is reminiscent of ‘Four Weddings and a Funeral’ and the comparison doesn’t stop there. However, if you are up for reading about the lives of six university friends over a couple of decades, then this story could bring you a lot of pleasure.

Laura Barnett has used the concept of exploring relationships which develop and change over time in her previous novels. The creation of credible characters, alongside cultural details, is clearly a strength but I wish that she had explored the motivations and personalities of her central characters in more depth. Perhaps the fact that she has six to focus on means that they are all a little diluted. This results in what are some pretty life-changing events not packing the punch that the reader might expect. That said, this is an involving, well written read, even if it does follow a familiar format. I note it’s due to be launched in early June and I’m sure it’ll prove to be a popular summer holiday read.

My thanks to NetGalley and Random House UK, Transworld Publishers for a copy of this book in exchange for a fair review.

Sadly I never finished reading this. I struggled with getting into the story, I'm sure others will enjoy reading it, just wasn't my taste.

This was the first book I've read in a looooong time that wasn't heavily plot driven, and what a refreshing, easy, cosy read it was.

Six university friends, after many years, come together again to celebrate the engagement of Rob and Ges. Not having all been together as a six for a long time, the6 all finally reconnect as well as new connections being made, between those that hadn't always been as close.

I'll admit it took me a while to get agrip of who was who, who was married to who, who had been married to who ... but once I got that all figured out, I couldn't put it down.

It reminded me an awful lot of a modern day Four Weddings and a Funeral, which was rather apt at the end!

The mix of characters was perfectly written, as were the complete mix of personalities and relationships. I loved just how real it all felt, so easily relatable, and each character was such a strong representation that anybody reading this book will find a connection somewhere!

A tale of friendship through the years, all of life's intricate weavings of love, life, death, and everything in between. The good. The bad. The ugly.

Huge thanks to Netgalley and Random House UK, Transworld Publishers for the ARC.

Wow! Just wow! I can’t believe that, when I started this book, I thought, this isn’t for me. It is, of course. It is a book for anyone who has loved, for anyone who has experienced the death of a loved one, for anyone who has contemplated or been married, for every parent, indeed, for anyone who has lived. Stunningly astute and relevant, it is a book that will remain with me for a long time. The characters are wonderfully flawed and believable, and the dilemmas they face identifiable. Six friends from university, brought together time after time to celebrate births, deaths and marriages. Their own friendships are strong and enduring, but they are not exclusive. There is space for new relationships. This is a profoundly human book, with a genuine depth of understanding of the complex challenges of simply living life.

Laura Barnett writes absorbing, well turned-out fiction, tending towards the commercial end of the scale. Beginning with an engagement and ending with a marriage, her new novel follows .Zoe, Rob, Rachel, Yas, Al and Indie who formed the kind of friendship that for those lucky enough to find it, can last a lifetime. Twenty years later, they’re looking forty in the face, some more scarred than others. This will be a significant year for all of them: lives will be changed irrevocably, unimaginable loss will be faced but there will be unexpected joy, too, and old desires reawakened.
Barnett handles her structure beautifully, flitting in and out of her six main characters’ lives, exploring their often-complicated relationship with each other and with others as they face what life throws at them - love, loss, joy, the general grind of the day-to-day – just as we all do. Her characters are well drawn and entirely believable, each of them faced with challenges mid-life often throws up. Climate change is subtly woven through it as is the shadow cast by the pandemic but it’s the characters that are to the fore in this hugely enjoyable novel which celebrates the durability of friendships that have weathered the storm of growing up

Not sure what I made of this. I found it hard to get into. The changing perspectives. I think its because I'm not used to this style of writing. It felt like I finally started to understand the format around the 75% mark.

I will give it another go at some point.

A big thank you to Random House UK for the ARC!

A great cosy read - Four Weddings and a Funeral meets One Day meets White Heat (the TV series).

Six university friends, present day and flash backs through their intertwined history. I love how the book wasn't predictable (I audibly gasped at some points), had a diverse range of characters with great depth and realistic storylines.

In particular Al was my favourite - what a guy ❤️.

A must read for 2025, I couldn't put it down and finished it within one evening!