Where Hands Go
An Introduction to Safe and Unsafe Touch
by Krystaelynne Sanders Diggs
This title was previously available on NetGalley and is now archived.
Pub Date 10 Jul 2021 | Archive Date 27 Aug 2021
Where Hands Go is the brand new book from the Kids Again Foundation designed to teach children when it is all right to be touched, and by who, and when it is wrong. Handsomely illustrated and thoughtfully written, this is a must read for every family with young children.
"This book is illustrated beautifully and provides a simple way to introduce the topic of “touch” without making it uncomfortable to your children. Must buy as a gift and for your own children! Just beautiful!"
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This is a book that should be in every child’s library because of the seriousness of the topic of where hands can or shouldn’t go. It is told in rhyme “Head and shoulders, knees and toes....”. Adorable illustrations! Thanks to Netgalley and Kids Again Foundation for this preview.
I really enjoyed this book. The illustrations and characters are beautiful. I think the poem is an easy one for young children to memorize. I would love to see a follow-up to this book as a way to dig even deeper into touches that aren’t okay, or even what to do when the feeling of being uncomfortable comes over a young person. But a great start to talking about a subject that needs to be addressed.
Where Hands Go This is a good book for parents / care givers to read to under school age children. It's quite Americanized but gets the meaning across in a non threatening way. Would also be good for nursery schools / play groups.
As mother of a toddler one of my biggest concern was how to introduce the concept of good and bad touch. But I found this gem which makes the discussion easier. The beautifully illustrated book discuss about the topic of touch by means of rhyme so that it is easily understandable for the child. The background set up is laid and illustrated such that children can easily realate to their daily lives. A must have book if you have a child.
This is a simple story with a strong message. It has some of the most beautiful illustrations I've ever seen and I believe children and parents will be drawn to it. I do wish it had made a statement that the child has a right to decline a hug or other touches that aren't necessarily bad, but makes the child feel uncomfortable. I just feel it was a little too short and had the opportunity to really empower the child in regards to her body. Overall though, the message is a good one and I would recommend it.
The illustrations catch your entire focus, and just pull you into the story. This is a great book for boys and girls alike. It's not too scary or graphic, so it is a wonderful introduction to the topic. It's short and sweet, and would a wonderful addition to parent's collections
As a mother of three young girls the title of this immediately caught my interest, and I thoroughly appreciated the message around consent and physical touch. I read this with my five-year-old last night and had a very wonderful discussion, she commented really appreciating the bright and colorful pictures, rhyming and sing songy verses, along with the message around touches that are allowed and comfortable and touches that or not. I’m thankful that schools and daycare‘s are providing this same message more now and so she was able to share various tidbits that she has learned that matched this message. As a parent this book feels important and necessary and a wonderful way of exploring a possibly really uncomfortable conversation for some families. As a therapist I can also see the benefit in a book like this being used as a prompt to assess and explore consent and children’s own bodies.
Where Hands Go is a simple story which has an extremely important message. It is an easy way to introduce children to the importance of knowing what is appropriate and what isn't and how they should react if they are ever in that situation. Thank you to NetGalley and BooksGoSocial for my ARC.
Every parent should read this book to their kids as a bedtime story. Where hands go is a storytelling approach to educate the kids about good touch and bad touch. With a simple and catchy poem, the mother teaches her young daughter where it is okay if somewhere touches you and where it isn’t. The book also gives a message that a child should trust their parent and don’t think that you’ll unnecessarily worry them, because a trusted parent would always look out for you. I really appreciate the fact that awareness about this topic is spread among children in a lighthearted and good way. Last but not the least, the Illustrations were literally magical. They were Pixar-movie level of Illustrations and completely amazed me.
What an excellent book for helping us parents keep our kids safe from predators. It is so important to make kids understand what types of physical interactions are not okay in a way that doesn’t damage their psyche. This book definitely accomplishes that and opens up a discussion between parents and their children.
Where Hands Go is a lovely, gentle introduction to teaching very young children about consent. I don't think it's ever too soon to teach kids about bodily autonomy, about what kind of touch is acceptable and what isn't. It can be a difficult subject for parents to bring up and I think this book is the perfect tool to approach that conversation. It's a very short book, told in the style of a poem that's easy to read and understand and the illustrations are so beautiful. I keep seeing this book and I'm glad I read it, I'll be recommending it to friends with young children.
This is such a beautiful book and one that I will definitely be purchasing for my daughters! Filled with the most beautiful illustrations and bright colours! I read this with my three year old and even though she didn’t really understand the message of the story, I do think this is such an important book and topic that she needs to grow up with. Sheds light on such an important lesson that all children need to be aware of and teaches it in a fun way. Can’t wait to add this book to my shelves!
This book is EXCELLENT for teacher young children about appropriate touches and what to do if someone touches them inappropriately. It’s done in a thoughtful and loving way as to not be scary or traumatizing. The illustrations are beautifully done. I love how the author used a familiar rhyme to teach an incredibly valuable lesson. It would be a perfect gift to parents and caregivers!!
I thought this book was a great starting point for discussions about body autonomy. The poem will be easy for kids to remember and will help them start to distinguish which touching is good and which touching is bad.
Trigger Warning: Book being reviewed discusses childhood sexual abuse, hereafter called CSA, just in case you need to skip. Where Hands Go by Krystaelynne Sanders Diggs is a really well-illustrated resource that uses an easily accessible poem (whose rhyme scheme doesn’t hit 100% of the time, but you know that I’m much more of a stickler for that than most readers, and definitely child readers), to talk to kids about bodily autonomy. Through really great illustrations of a young, black, female-presenting child & her mom, and a bedtime routine that will be easily relatable for many children, Sanders Diggs (who runs an organization focused on helping children heal from the trauma of CSA called Kids Again Foundation, where the infographic below is from) opens the door to discussions about CSA in a really gentle way that most little kids will understand. Teaching them that they’re in charge of their body and get to say how or when other people touch it, and that there are circumstances in which they are not just allowed to disobey what other people request of them, but encouraged to do so is how to protect your kids from CSA, step 1 of 90,000. Knowing that there are times where the appropriate response is to “shake my head NO! NO! NO! Before I get up and GO! GO! GO!” is an essential skill for all children to master. There are a lot of ways that predators manipulate small children into allowing/participating in CSA, but one of the main feelings survivors talk about is not knowing that they had the option to say stop, because young children, especially, are conditioned to just.. obey grown-ups. Again, unfortunately, 1/3 of CSA perpetrators are people that the children know, and they’re used to just having to do as the bigger/older person tells them to. Arming kids with the tools to be able to question whether a touch is appropriate or not, or if the abuser is doing something to that they need to talk to their parent/someone they trust about is one of those things we all know we need to do, but also one of those conversations that we sometimes have a hard time figuring out how to start. Where Hands Go is a great way to start that conversation with your littles.
Thanks to NetGalley for giving me this advanced copy of this book, and my legitimate thanks to the author, for giving me the opportunity to read his book. It is a book that teaches children what to touch, what not to touch by another person and to know how to recognize when not to let others touch by them. What a great book to read to a young child. Many times child abuse occurs from those closest to a family or in the places frequented by the little innocent, know how to share who is disrespecting the barrier of not "touching". 4.5
I received a copy of this book from NetGalley. I was drawn to the beautiful cover. This book is about a mom who is teaching her daughter about safe touches and unsafe touches. It’s in rhyming form which is great for the intended audience. This is such an important topic and one that unfortunately needs to be introduced at an early age. I felt this book barely skimmed the surface about what kinds of touches are bad. I understand that it’s because it’s just an introduction to the idea. I actually read it to my almost 3-year-old daughter and felt she was a good age for the book. The illustrations were lovely and I love that it represented a family of color. The length was just right. Maybe even a little too short and rushed. Overall this is a children’s book about a serious topic but the sweet illustrations took the edge off of the subject.
The graphics in this book are straight out of Pixar! Incredibly creative and I absolutely love the black representation in this children's book! This book had me immediately with "I love my mom so much, she is the best." Excuse me while I get a little misty over here. Also the kitchen in the book looks like something designed on HGTV. The concept taught to children on when and where it is okay to be touched is very important. I recall learning this exact concept from I was a child because it was implanted into my brain. It is important that children understand and this book does it in a way that is non-threatening nor scary to any child. This was beyond delightful! My niece loved it immensely!
I received an advance reader copy of this book to read in exchange for an honest review via netgalley and the publishers. Where Hands Go is a beautifully illustrated children's book to help teach children in a subtle way, what is safe and unsafe in the form of touch. In the story the mummy gets the girl ready for bed each night by reciting a poem like song to her about touch and when to run. Parents often don't know how to broach this subject with their children and this is a great way for both parent and child to communicate this together.
Where Hands Go, an amazing book with an even better concept! Teaching kids when it’s not okay for people to touch you, and reminding them to talk to parents if something happens. I will for sure be buying this book as a gentle reminder to my kids that I’m here to protect them! And their body is their own! The illustrations in this book are so beautifully done!
This is a lovely story about 'Good touches' and 'Bad touches' which every youngster needs to know and be aware of, although I don't think many young children would understand about hands straying so I think the boundaries need to be a little clearer about where hands should not go. I know it's a children's books, and things can't be explicit and needs to be age appropriate, but I feel it needs explaining better. Absolutely loves the Illustrations - they were very cartoon like and very cute.
A lesson for the little ones on where do the hands go and don't go. Very colorful. A helpful tool for guardians to have talk about touching at an early age.
The illustrations in this book are beautiful. I think this is a topic kids really need to know about. I felt like what is the bad touch needs a bit more detail for smaller children. When hands stray probably isn’t something my 2 year old would understand.
This is a wonderful book for parents and kids to read together. It is a good message and begins the conversation to have. Also it is easy to read, it’s colorful and bright. Thank you to NetGalley, author, and the publisher for a gifted copy. This is my honest review.
An absolutely beautiful and important children's picture book about knowing what kind of touch is appropriate. It's a weird time for children in the real world and life is more confusing than ever. This short and to the point book will be a great asset for any young children to help set boundaries.