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More Than Words

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Kirsten Anderson has bravely written about her experience being subjected to workplace harassment and bullying, then her subsequent termination after reporting it, and years-long legal fight to hold the perpetrator and her employer accountable. I love that her stated mission in this book is bold: to end workplace harassment in her lifetime. 

The book follows a similar format as I’ve seen in some other recent self-help/ non-fiction books related to the workplace. The format includes personal experience written like memoir, which is then supplemented with lessons learned, tips, tools, recommendations and sample scenarios to drive the points home. Each chapter ends with important take-aways/ key points, along with an example scenario and questions to reflect on for yourself. Anderson also provides some excellent resources as an appendix at the end of the book which I found to be a helpful addition and great way to round out the book. 

There were several passages and excerpts that I highlighted while reading this. Anderson weaves her personal experiences from getting the job where she was harassed all the way to the end of the court proceedings, with her personal recommendations for those in similar situations. She shares what worked for her to deal with the challenges she faced and ends with a call to action to stop workplace harassment and bullying. I think there’s something for everyone to take away from this book whether they have experienced similar situations personally or not.  

I would have liked more depth in some parts, but I believe that’s a personal preference. Books that are written from an academic point of view, and that include a larger volume of studies and statistics tend to draw me in more. On the other hand, I feel this book will be more relatable and accessible to the general public which is essential to moving the conversation about ending workplace harassment and bullying forward in today’s society.  

One of the highlights of this book for me was her suggestion to reframe how we view and name those subjected to workplace harassment and bullying from “victim” to “target” to put the onus back on the perpetrator. I felt like this was insightful and I hope it gains more traction as more people get to read this book and hear Anderson speak.

This book explores such a culturally relevant and vital topic, I think it’s highly worth your time to read it.
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I struggled with this. Not because it's badly written but because it tackles a difficult topic and does it well. Rather than read this in one sitting, like I usually would, I read it over several days.

Kirsten begins a difficult conversation with the aim of enlightening readers and ultimately bringing about change.

She does it well and I hope this book is read by many people.
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I had my up and downs with this book, but overall is a solid 4 stars in first instance, because of the topic, which is still today extremely important tot talk about. I love how the author uses the word 'target' instead of 'victim', and it's a good book to learn how to deal with sexual harassment, to help people struggling... We always say that we have to say something, and this author indeed say and did something.
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It took courage to tell this story that Kirsten shares in this empowering book. I was applauding all the way as I turned the pages. I believe Kirsten’s story will inspire other women to not only fight back against workplace abuse, but to do the healing work necessary to move past the trauma.
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Ahhh I don't know how i feel about this book so the review is going to be a little all over the place. The topics of the book are important and there are some thought provoking questions and scenarios in it. However, the author had a big court case regarding her treatment at work and that formed the majority of the book which sometimes missed the mark.

For example, towards the end she writes something along the lines of i know what i am doing is worth while because people stop me in the street and thank me. I want to give her a huge and send her back to therapy because after that whole book the sum up of advocacy still relied on external validation!?

Also with the scenarios i wish there was some answers i know they were open ended questions to make me think but also some just left me stumped in what the person should do and if there was hope for their situation.

Thank you to netgalley for a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
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A large part of my disappointment in this book, while still a good book, came from mismatched expectations. I went into this book expecting a memoir of her experiences and while that forms about 40% of this book, the remainder does not fit those expectations. Instead, the remainder of the book, a good 60% falls more into the category of self-help. I suppose that more careful attention to the title and synopsis from me prior to reading the book would have helped me hedge my expectations. However, after reading the synopsis subsequent to reading the book, only my knowledge of the contents of the book would have prepared me for what I actually received in this book.
I think that this story needs to be shared and that people need this help and these tools. However, I think that the marketing needs some adjustment so that the main focus of the book can reach more readers.
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81% of females have been sexually harassed in their lifetime. EIGHTY ONE PERCENT.

This book is challenging, because the topic is heavy and rightfully so. But there are legitimate tips to use woven throughout like phrases to use during tough or inappropriate situations. 

She poses questions after scenarios to get you thinking. 

Such a good piece of nonfiction for all women and men. #MeToo

Thank you to NetGalley and Indigo River for this ARC. I hope it finds its way into the hands of many more soon.
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Wow this one was heavy. It was a quick read where and I think this should be available to everyone as a resource because it really had me looking inwards at my own life and experiences.
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Special thank you to Indigo River Publishing and NetGalley for allowing me to read and review this digital ARC of More than Words

As a feminist I was very intrigue to read a book that centered around the #meToo movement and am also very personally affected by this. TW this book touches on sexual harassment and does a good job at it too. Provides how to deal with its, how to be supportive to those effected by it and most importantly the encouragement to NOT stay quiet. It may be a hard book to connect to if you've not experience this - but really helps encourage empathy towards anyone going through this. True story and personally I think a must read
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Firstly thank you for Netgalley and indigo river publishers for this ARC. 

I wish this book had been a resource for me when I was younger as it’s a lot harder now to relearn how to respect yourself and know your value.  
I have recently worked in a toxic workplace and it doesn’t leave you. I was lucky to have someone new join my workplace and see that the pattern of bullying language was not limited to me which showed me that it was not a problem with me  but a problem with the wider work force/management and both me and my new colleague quickly left after raising the issue with HR

This book should be a resource for all workplaces , schools , to be honest this book is for all. 

It bounces between facts/statistics and situation examples (so you can reflect on how to put what you have read into a real setting) to personal experiences and her own feelings. 

I loved the discussion on respect and couldn’t agree more that respect to others is not valued as much as it should be in our social media world where instant personal gratification is much more widespread . The customer is not always right and everyone in every role should be valued with respect. 

My only criticism is that I wish it had delved deaper into the authors own emotions and how the situation she found herself in had effected her at the time. 
As I am from the UK I was unfamiliar with her story and of how the structure of us politics works so a bit more background context in her story would have really helped. 

This book will make you feel smart, strong and valued . The message of hope and respect is palpable on every page . 
I would highly recommend!
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More Than Words is a nonfiction work by Kirsten Anderson [ Release2022]. The author tells the plight of workers in hostile workplaces. She suffered varying degrees of sexual harassment, most of it verbal. She tells of the devastating effect of being on the receiving end of such taunts. Furthermore, she expresses how her self-worth filtered through her fingers from every foul word she heard directed towards her. She even suffered more when she reported the uncomfortable events.

I liked the message the book is sending across the globe. Everyone deserves respect and dignity. I also like the courage displayed in the writing. Kirsten suffered like a sacrificial lamb in and out of the office, but she took it upon herself to protest against sexual harassment at the workplace. I also enjoyed the short stories involving fictional characters. The book is engaging by asking questions at the end of each chapter.

The work expresses a lot of pain, even at the time of writing. It shows that healing is a process and every target should focus on healing as soon as possible.

 I rate this book 3 out of 5 stars. The book is educative and a proactive step. The work is a self-help that will enable targets to keep moving.

I recommend this book to everyone who has suffered sexual harassment and workplace abuse. The book will be a guide to getting back on their feet and facing the future. Relatives of the targets should also go over the book to understand the suffering targets undergo. The bullies should also read to see how the target feels and reflect on their actions.
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This is the story of Kirsten Anderson who worked as a communications specialist for the State of Iowa, and legally fought the sexual harassment she faced at work. 

Kirsten had a boss who frequently made lewd remarks, gestures & jokes – many of the examples she cites are definitely disturbing. She complained about it a few times and found that no action followed. As she points out, the powerful, especially those perceived to produce results are never acted against. This, of course, is a mirage as other than the purely unacceptable environment, the human costs are also extremely high. She came to be scrutinized and criticized for her work quality after her complaints. She found herself finding ways to cope by somehow adjusting to a toxic environment for 5 years. After another complaint, she was fired from her job almost immediately. She was lucky to find a considerate attorney to argue her case which she won and received an award.  

There are takeaways and scenarios at the end of each chapter to prompt introspection on how abuse can be handled. The statistics she quotes are troubling – 81% of women and 41% of men have faced abuse at work, and moreover a vast majority do not report the abuse they face. Though the writing could have been better, this is a story of bravery and is inspiring. 

My rating: 4.25 / 5.
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More Than Words is a powerful account of sexual harassment in the workplace. It's an immense issue that needs to be talked about more, and I think this book is the perfect way to do so. I loved how educational it was. I learnt a lot, and I'm sure a lot of others will. I'm glad books like this exist.
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More than Words by Kirsten D. Anderson is a wonderful, inspiring read on the way of making a harassment free work enviornment. 

Kirsten was working in a state legislature having more men and a few women. To survive in a manly enviornment one has to compromise a lot of things so do she. She lived in a toxic workplace for 5 long years where she suffered from sexual harassment. At heights of her suffering she thought of giving up but her all protests went in vain.

At last she was fired and that moment changed her life. Her husband supported her in all walks of life. She decided to file a courtcase which meant to suffer again all disgusting comments or allow anyone else to scrutinize your sexual harassment once again and publicly. She didn't give up and won the case after four years legal battle.

In this book Kirsten has shared her personal experiences of despair and then coming out of that trauma. She desires for a healthy work enviornment for all.

I loved reading this amazing book and recommend this book this book for all self help book lovers. It is an amazing and inspiring read for all. Happy reading!

I am really thankful to Netgalley and Indigo river Publishing for giving me this wonderful book to read in return of an honest review. 

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Huge thanks to NetGalley for lending me an advanced reader's copy of the book in exchange of a honest review. All thoughts are on my own.

This was an amazing an necessary book towards sexual harassment, how to deal with it, how to support people that are suffering and mainly, to do something about it and don't stay quiet. I encourage everyone to read this book, it makes you think and it also helps you to have more empathy towards people in toxic environments. It's a very important book that tells a true life story, everyone should read it.
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More Than Words by Kirsten Anderson is much more educational than I anticipated and offers a deep dive into the world of sexual harassment, toxic masculinity, and trial proceedings. In her guide to turning the #metoo movement into #isaidsomething, Anderson summarizes the main takeaways from her chapters into easy-to-digest tidbits and then provides real life scenarios for the reader to apply what they learned to assess the situation. 

What I respected most about the author, besides her courage to fight back, was that even though she won her case, she recognized that many targets of sexual harassment receive nothing. She took her learnings from the trial process and decided to channel them into advocacy for the #metoo movement. The only part that did not sit well with me was when her husband found out about the extent of the harassment, he excused her short behavior and told her to do what she needed to not get fired. She repeatedly mentions how supportive he was during the process, and this could just be me reading into the exchange. If this book is included in future curriculums, I would love for the author to provide her own answers to the assessment questions at the end of each chapter. Overall, this is the first book I’ve read that provides a full guide to what to do and what to expect when faced with sexual harassment and the content is essential. 

From this book, my most important takeaways are:
-Change vernacular from victim to target to help individuals suffering sexual harassment feel more empowered 
-Adaptation to toxic environments fueled by harassment forces people to consequently change their characters
-Exploration of the unquantifiable effects of sexual harassment such as self worth, depression, and job prospects - this isn’t talked about enough.
-Women are not out to get men, we just want equal pay and treatment
-90% of sexual harassment incidents are not reported due to fear of speaking out and retaliation
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Kirsten Anderson very smoothly goes through the story telling how she dealth with the situation that accoured at her workplace. Not hiding her own actions, like telling jokes that went too far, just to try to fit in. She tells about steps she took before going to the court, how this experience not only changed and affected her, but also her husband and everyone close to her.

My favourite part in the book followed after each chapter with a few simple questions, that made you stop for a while and think "What would I do?" "How would I react?" etc. 

And if we think about it, men should be the one's reading this book, so no one would have to go through this.
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This is a powerful and touching story of the struggles that are, sadly, far too common in today's world.  I'm so proud of any woman who shares her story and for that, I absolutely applaud this author.  I will say that parts of the book read a bit robotic, in terms of things like "I did this and then I said this and then I felt this" - as opposed to more of an immersive experience.  I say that, however, knowing that it is incredibly difficult to toe that line with a subject as raw as this one.  More than Words certainly lives up to its title, as it serves as a reminder that we all have more than words in our arsenal of ways to help, but words are certainly a great place to start.  Speak up, speak out, and uplift those brave enough to come forward.
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In More than Words, Kirsten dives deep into the Me to movement but with relatable stories and prompts to think on and really bring it to our today. It's time for change in the workplace and this book is leading the way.
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I really appreciate the author for writing this book. To write about this topic and explain your own experience requires a brave heart.  It's a heavy read. It's my first time to read a book on #metoo in which the real difficulties faced by women in today's world are well described. The way book is written is good.
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