I was immediately drawn in to this book, especially by the knowledge and expertise of the author. The only disappointing thing was that I couldn't find it on Goodreads. Parents need a coach and a cheerleader, and the author more than delivers in this quality book. I appreciated the vignettes of real families that have been through challenges and am interested in finding ways to not only resolve conflict but to heal the underlying problem. This book provides guidance and support in this journey that parents are part of.

I highly recommend this book for therapists and libraries.

This is an insightful, attachment-focused guide that prioritizes building resilient kids over quick-fix compliance tactics. Drawing on his experience with Dr. Gordon Neufeld, Sarner provides a compassionate, three-phase framework for strengthening the parent-child bond.

The actionable, evidence-based strategies for navigation are a major strength, though the deep dive into attachment theory can be dense for a casual reader. Despite the learning curve, the book offers a valuable blueprint for lasting, positive change in family life. It challenges parents to be steady, attuned leaders, and for that, it is a highly worthwhile read.

Released on November 18th, and wow this one was inspiring

If you’re a parent who’s trying to juggle big feelings (you or kids), longing for more presence, or wanting practical strategies that actually fit real life, this is a must-read.

What I loved most: it doesn’t pretend parenting is perfect or peaceful all the time. This books gives you tools to slow down, regulate, and respond. You become the parent you want to be and there will still be trying or challenging days

It’s gentle, relatable stating good points that stick with you long after you finish the book.

As a therapist, I’ve taught parenting classes, and I’ve run a support group for parents. I’ve read many parenting books over the years. I can honestly say, this is one of best books on parenting I’ve read. I say this because the question that came up for me as I read this book was how would someone describe the relationship with a parent who followed the advice in this book? The answer that came up over and over again was a close relationship with an abundance of love, respect, genuine warmth and connection. Isn’t that what we all ultimately want as parents? The problem is how to do it, and that is exactly the skills this book teaches.

I particularly appreciated all the real life examples in this book of very common problems parents face in their day to day lives. I also really liked the tone of this book. The author’s advice feels kind to both child and parent, encouraging, and very doable.

This book is full of wisdom for anyone who has dreamed of creating a truly happy home with healthy and thriving relationships with their children. I wholeheartedly recommend this to parents, anyone thinking about becoming a parent, and to therapists to give to their clients as an adjunct to therapy.

Even though I’m a mom to an 18-year-old, I found this book very helpful. It was still relevant to parenting, and I walked away with new tools to help me connect with my son in a calm, efficient way. Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC.

What Atomic Habits did for the way I think about building habits, I have a feeling The Calm and Connected Parent by Todd Sarner is going to do for the way I approach parenting. That is not a comparison I make lightly.

A lot of the advice here reflects things I already do, which was both reassuring and a genuine confidence boost. But even with that, I still came away with an abundance of practical, actionable ideas that I am already putting into practice. Sarner writes with clarity and warmth, and the advice never feels preachy or unattainable. It meets you where you are.

This is a book I will come back to repeatedly. The kind you keep on the shelf not as a keepsake but as a working reference, something to dip into as your children grow and new challenges appear.

My one complaint is almost embarrassingly nitpicky, but here it is: the resources section at the back mentions a weekly newsletter on the author's website. Reader, there is no weekly newsletter. I searched thoroughly and found nothing but links to the book and a free masterclass. For a book this good it barely registers, but it did leave me slightly deflated when I was ready to sign up.

Four and three quarter stars. Hugely recommended, especially for parents looking for something genuinely practical rather than just reassuring.

Huge thanks to NetGalley and Attachment Solutions Press for my copy.

Thank you to netgalley and the publisher for the ARC!

I was quite impressed by this! There was so much good information that was new to me as a parent, nurse, and person with psychology background. The info was not only useful but also included concrete examples of where to fit in the parenting and communication techniques presented. I found it all very relatable and I am certain other parents would too if you're working to "break the cycle" of generational behaviors that can be passed down. I told my husband he needs to read this and will be applying the techniques regularly now in our neurodivergent household. I will have to grab myself a physical copy!

I really appreciated this parenting book. It was practical, clear, and easy to apply in real life, which is exactly what I needed. Instead of overwhelming theory, it focuses on simple ideas that actually make a difference in everyday situations with kids.

What stood out most to me was how realistic the advice felt. The author understands that parenting isn’t perfect and offers solutions that are doable, even on busy or stressful days. I found myself reflecting on my own approach and making small changes that already feel helpful.

The tone was supportive without being preachy, which I liked. It felt more like guidance than criticism, and that made it easier to stay open to the ideas.

Overall, a very useful read that I would recommend to any parent looking for practical strategies and a bit more confidence in their day-to-day parenting.