Bachelorx
a Nonbinary Memoir
by Skylar Lyralen Kaye
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Pub Date 1 Apr 2026 | Archive Date 9 Mar 2026
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Description
A nonbinary plural person's mythopoetic search for love and sex
Synopsis:
When nonbinary Orpheus leaves their much-loved asexual partner Tobi after 35 years, they have never dated sober, never had a casual girlfriend and never had sober sex. At the age of sixty-two, they’re good at marriage and and making art, but not much else. They’ve been living out and proud not only as nonbinary, but also as plural, filming a queer web series.
They’re completely unprepared for middle aged lesbians and their complicated desires.
Romance, flirting, love-bombing, control, seduction, desire roll into Orpheus’ life with hilarity and confusion, waking up every possible opinion among their many vocal, sex-deprived and vulnerable personalities.
Their very painful history gets woken up, too.
As teenager personalities revel in the “queer prom that never was, as Orpheus experiences a first kiss with a much younger trans person and then goes on to make out with a woman who confesses trauma in between flicks of her tongue, as child personalities run for cover and the wise inner yoga teacher Kaye warns that none of them are ready to date, Orpheus dog paddles through the waves of dysfunctional urge-to-merge dating.
Then two friends die and their landlord sells their building. Their now ex Tobi totals their car and breaks their back.
Will a Eurydice ever appear, Orpheus wonders, as they search the apps.
When she does, she comes with a lump in her breast, heart problems, a live-in mother, disabled son and a need for a partner who will hold on, listen and take care of her no matter what comes. At week six, Eurydice’s at passion. At week seven, she’s talking about adding an addition to her house.
And Orpheus, who will say that they’re plural but won’t show it, who resists commitment only in their silences, goes to every medical appointment, every work occasion, every family party, as their personalities argue about whether to stay, whether to go, whether anything could possibly be right with this unhappy woman they can’t get enough of touching.
A Note From the Publisher
Skylar Lyralen Kaye, fae/they is an award-winning fiction writer, screenwriter, filmmaker, solo performer and storyteller. This is their first memoir.
Advance Praise
PRAISE for Bachelorx
“Some memoirs are compelling because of the writer’s absorbing story and unique writing style. In others you learn intriguing things about a life that is quite different from yours. With still others, the writer offers a courageous and uncensored window into the way their internal family members interact, the impact of early abuse on them, and how those parts interface with their external world. In Kaye’s funny and poignant book, you get all those things and more!”
Dr. Richard Schwartz, PhD
Author of You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For and Internal Family Systems Therapy
“Eloquently written Bachelorx offers a desperately needed alternative to society’s pathology-focused view of the remarkable human ability to survive and heal. Funny, insightful, inclusive, heartbreaking and hopeful, Bachelorx is easily the most important book I’ve read this year.”
Charity Feb
Creator of The Disappeared, a photo essay
“Bachelorx is a remarkable and beautiful book. The protagonist, Orpheus — nonbinary, plural, fiercely loyal to their friends, their integrity, and most of all, to their inner community — is newly single and hitting the apps for the first time, navigating the contemporary queer dating landscape with humor, intelligence, a keen eye for irony and tender attention to healing. When they inevitably meet their Eurydice, Orpheus charts a path back from the underworld of limerent, obsessive love. Groundbreaking and relatable, funny and sexy, compassionate and wise, this memoir has rare power and the kind of narrative momentum that keeps you up reading into the night.”
Rachel Swift
Freelance journalist at The Providence Eye and Chicago’s Newcity Magazine
author of naked and stunned at the end of the world, a newsletter exploring chronic illness and culture.
"Skylar Lyralen Kaye's memoir, Bachelorx, explodes with humor, healing, and heartbreak. The magical protagonist Orpheus invites us into the loud commentary of their inner people - which is sacred, touching, and hilarious. Kaye takes us on an epic modern journey of a new Orpheus and their Eurydice. Across bays, oceans, lovers, seasons of loss, reliving trauma, and dating, Kaye's humor is fiercely bold and badass, while inspiring us to fight like our lives depend upon it - in order to live and love radically, fully, holistically - loving all ourselves."
Tina D’Elia
Multi Award-winning poet and Solo Performer
Creator of Overlooked Latinas
“A sixty-something sober nonbinary social justice artist with multiple personalities goes online dating, after leaving a 35-year nearly sexless marriage? Skylar Lyralen Kaye, an award-winning writer, does a great job with these tangled tales of attraction, disappointment - and, of course sexual desire.
We get to meet the protagonist’s sub-personalities as well as a hilarious set of unsuitable dates. A theme that will chime for many is how the generation gap between older lesbians (“don’t call me queer!”) and younger gender-fluid folk makes for a difficult later-life dating life for those of us who’ve grown and shifted our earlier identifications, those of us who feel more at home with the language and inclusivity (trans-, neurodiversity) of young people - but who absolutely do not want our intimacy to be intergenerational. While “stigma and shame, pathology and masking” (and a fair bit of substance use) are the sea that many older queers swim in, what can a nonbinary paddleboarder like Skye (Orpheus) do to find a healthy space for erotic love and affection? This books tells the stories - and points us towards some helpful and healthy ideas for having fun, with safety and respect. Childhood trauma and sexual abuse leave gouges, not traces; but can also furnish powerful motors for healing and deep wisdom.
Hot stuff, tough stuff, fun stuff: it’s all here.
Dr Caroline Osella
The Rewilded Anthropologist,
on the run after 25 years at University of London
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Available Editions
| EDITION | Ebook |
| ISBN | 9444988318835 |
| PRICE | $8.99 (USD) |
| PAGES | 319 |
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