The Good Girl’s Guide To Being A D*ck

The Good Girl's Guide to Being a D*ck is a very useful little book. It shows you how to learn to say no to people in various common scenarios, and to deal with awkward family discussions. It is wittily written with bags of common sense. I could imagine referring to it before saying no to a workplace jolly, or an extended family cruise holiday. It would make a great discussion book at a book club too, as most people struggle to deal with confrontation.

This is a book written especially for those who suffer from an overwhelming willingness to help others. A member of my family was told by a psychologist she works alongside, that many of the problems she had in her life were as a consequence of this very mindset, but how can you change it if that is your nature? I feel that having an altruistic nature inevitably leads to not-so-nice individuals exploiting your "weakness" and taking advantage. There is nothing wrong with finding pleasure in aiding others, except when it results in that person being on the backfoot in terms of health, finances etc, which happens a lot more than you might think.

"The Good Girl's Guide To Being A D*ck" teaches you that you don't always need to be nicer, calmer or more patient. In fact, some of us need the exact opposite! Yes, there is such a thing as being too nice, it seems. It guides you on - how to identify who and what to remove from your life and how to learn to stop worrying about what others think. It teaches you to embrace your own needs and desires, making for a higher quality life.

Although this is an incredibly important book for those inclined to appease others, Reinwarth writes in such a fabulously witty and engaging manner that it doesn't seem as much of a self-help book as it might've and will no doubt having you laughing along as you read.

Many thanks to Kings Road Publishing for an ARC.

This is the book i'd have liked to read when I was in the twenties.
A witty, funny and enjoyable guide on how to say no to people and situation who want to force you into saying yes to their requests.
Even if now I'm older and learned how to say no there're still some tricks and advice that can be useful.
It was a useful and fun read.
Highly recommended.
Many thanks to Kings Road Publishing and Netgalley for this ARC

I've been employing the sort of methods this book teaches for well over a decade now and I can testify that it definitely makes for more peace of mind in the long term. Women tend to be taught from infancy to make less noise, take up less space, to be helpful and open and obliging. Which means in many situations where swift action and decision are called for, that early ingrained and fatal politeness takes over and we hesitate. If you are naturally an altruistic, nurturing person on top of that early conditioning, then it's a bad combination often resulting in toxic friendships and relationships and people taking advantage of you. This book would have been great for me in my twenties tbh and I recommend it for everyone who feels it's hard to say 'no' or 'get lost' or in fact is tormented with guilt or the need to explain after they do either of these things. Really the title is a bit click bait because this is about learning to be assertive and placing equal value on yourself as on others. Told in a witty, entertaining way this was a surprisingly enjoyable read.