Relationships

A fresh approach to matters of the heart, teaching us that success in love need never again be just a matter of luck.

Love has a history and we ride – sometimes rather helplessly – on its currents. Since around 1750, we have been living in a highly distinctive era in the history of love that we can call Romanticism. And it has been a disaster for love.

Relationships challenges the assumptions of the Romantic view of love. It shows how to develop new attitudes that can lead to a psychologically mature vision of love:

– That it is OK that love and sex may not always belong together.

– That discussing money early on, in a serious way, is not a betrayal of love.

– That realizing that we are rather flawed, and our partner is too, is of huge benefit to a couple.

– That we will never find everything we need in another person, nor they in us.

– That spending two hours discussing whether bathroom towels should be hung up or can be left on the floor has its own dignity.

Full of applied real-life examples, and enlivened throughout with humor and cultural anecdote, this innovative guide paves the way to a new, brighter future for love.