How to Outsmart a Narcissist

Use Emotional Intelligence to Regain Control at Home, at Work, and in Life

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Pub Date 10 Oct 2024 | Archive Date 23 Jul 2024
Hachette UK | Sheldon Press

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It might be surprising to learn that the emotional qualities that allow you to remain close to others, empathize, collaborate, compromise, perspective-take, and easily resolve conflict, in most healthy relationships, can actually backfire with a narcissist.
Why? Because you see the good. You trust. You empathize. These emotionally intelligent attributes keep you connected to others and help you resolve conflict amicably and maintain healthy relationships.
Written by psychotherapist and attachment expert, Dr. Erin Leonard, How to Outsmart a Narcissist breaks down how a narcissist manipulates and exploits these traits and details strategies to protect yourself against their attacks, whether they come from a romantic partner, a work colleague, a spouse, a co-parent, or a family member.
Filled with relatable stories, emotionally intelligent solutions, and practical advice to help you outsmart the narcissist in your life, this is your guide to finally finding peace from their chaos.

It might be surprising to learn that the emotional qualities that allow you to remain close to others, empathize, collaborate, compromise, perspective-take, and easily resolve conflict, in most...

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100% this is a five star book. If you’ve ever experienced (or think you’ve experienced) a narcissist in your life, you should get it.

I’m a fan of a self-help book & have read a couple of them on attachment & on narcissism. None has been like this. Each concise chapter is written in a way that’s easy to understand yet not too simplified that it feels hard to engage with. Solid scenarios help back up the author’s points, as do a wealth of citations so you know that this is a well researched book. Crucially this also gives you solid advice for various scenarios you might find yourself in an entanglement with a narcissist. The advice is practical and honestly feels really helpful. This is the first book from NetGalley that I will 100% be buying when it comes out.

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Discovering that the very qualities fostering healthy relationships can falter when dealing with a toxic individual is eye-opening. This insightful read delves into how emotional intelligence, essential for empathy, collaboration, and conflict resolution, can be manipulated by narcissists. A must-read for those left bewildered or hurt after encounters with such personalities, the book offers clear insights into narcissistic tactics and effective coping strategies. From workplace dynamics to personal relationships, it provides practical guidance, highlighting the limitations of empathy in dealing with narcissists. The inclusion of examples showcasing narcissistic behaviours adds depth and clarity, while the book's structured layout facilitates easy comprehension. A valuable resource shedding light on narcissism and empowering readers with actionable advice. Thanks to NetGalley and Hachette UK for this enlightening read. Highly recommended for anyone seeking to understand and navigate relationships with narcissistic individuals.

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